Jason Rebellion Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Well this is actually a long long story...short and sweet: My wife of 4 years has decided to separate. This was 2 weeks ago. I have mixed feelings on the issue to be honest. She has never worked during the marriage and we have one child together who is 2. We only have 1 car in my name and making payments. Rather than her having to move in with her family, I told her just to stay here in my home and try to get a job which she has, waiting on a start date. Told her to save up money to get her a place nearby rather than taking off to her family in NC. I'm starting to think this is an issue now....opinions? We're trying to be civil and for the most part we are. Any advice or help would be appreciated. To top it all off, I'm out of work on worker's comp due to a torn ACL. Had surgery a month ago and I'm able to walk now with limited bending of my knee.
whichwayisup Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Why does she want to separate from you? did you two try marriage counselling? seems like such a shame to walk away without trying (not sure if you did or not)..your child should be the reason for both of you to do your best and make the marriage work.
Author Jason Rebellion Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 She has been bipolar for many years, and now she claims she's been unhappy our whole marriage and wants out. I've literally got zero support for me in this, as between my job workin 70 hrs a week and my son and her I've got zero friends to hang around, and I just don't see any point in doing things alone.
Gunny376 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Have you figured out who the other guy is yet? :lmao: :lmao: :lmao:
Author Jason Rebellion Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 wow you guys really know how to be dicks about this. thanks.
worldgonewrong Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Jason - they're not being dicks. Your situation mirrors mine quite a bit. If you dig, chances are extremely high that there's another guy. I didn't want to believe it either. She has been bipolar for many years, and now she claims she's been unhappy our whole marriage and wants out. Yup. Been there. Exactly.
reboot Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 "she claims she's been unhappy our whole marriage" This is extremely unlikely, and is what we typically call "rewriting history". It's one of the signs that there might be someone else.
Gunny376 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Sorry if we came off like jerks, its just that its extremely rare for someone but most especially a woman to leave the arms of one man without having at least someone else in mind, if not already in the wings waiting on them. Especially if the woman isn't already self supporting in some way or the other, such as being a career professional. Even those that are career professionals (RN, School Teachers etc) typically tend to have a string of relationships strung out. Typically when discussing bi-polar that goes hand in hand with ADHD ~ so they tend to have a very short attention span when it comes to one thing or another. Now take any and all that I just posted ~ use from it what you can and discard the rest. It sounds from what you posted that your trying to be a "Nice Guy" about any and all of this ~ which more times than ends up blowing up in your face big time and comes back to bite you in the azz. I'm not saying to being an azzhole about the situation ~ but you don't need to clim up on a lover's cross either. Its extremely hard to find any decenet job these days especially when you've just had surgery, and on the mend. I know I was down and out for seventeen months six of them with a broken femur on the mend. I would recomend you first concentrate on getting back on your feet ~ both physically, mentally, emtionally, financially ~ everything hinges on that. In short you've been handed a lot to deal with in short order, and its going to take some hard and serious work to even get back to what use to "normal"
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