Nancy B Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Being friends has been okay. We broke up while abroad and have a lot of mutual friends. We agreed to be friends. We all went out Friday night. Me and my ex ended up going home together. I know it's foolish, but I felt nothing and we had a great morning yesterday. We went out and bought food and made a great breakfast. He went to meet his buddies and we agreed to text each other and let each other know the plan for the night (purely because two of the guys are leaving this week so we want to say goodbye.) Me and some friends went out last night. I texted my boyfriend to tell him where we were. Over the course of the night I called him three times. No answer. No response to my sms. I couldnt contact the other guys because their phones were dead. This morning I see all over Facebook, photos of them on the town. In some of the same places where I was. I am really pissed that he robbed me of the oppurtunity to say bye to two of our mutual friends. How could he treat me this way?
TaraMaiden Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Easy. Because he owes you nothing. You're not together, you're just friends. As he sees it, FWB. He can have sex with you and enjoy being with you, but has no obligation to treat you any other way than a handy leg-over. Being friends with an ex doesn't work. Particularly if you blur the boundaries....
Tyler. Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Me and some friends went out last night. I texted MY BOYFRIEND to tell him where we were. Over the course of the night I called him three times. No answer. How could he treat me this way? Are you sure you can be just friends? Because referring to him as your boyfriends tells another story? And about not answering, they might have just wanted to have a boys night out. If you can be friends with your ex, go for it. But you've got to give each other space, or the emotions will resurface. Sad to break it to you, but maybe he wanted to get laid? Like he could have thought you being there would be awkward, while he's talking to girls. These are just some possibilities, i don't know what else to say. And in my experience, i've never been able to keep an ex as a friend because there are still emotions between us. You might be different, i don't know. But be sure of it, because if you still have feelings for him, you two being just friends will not end well. As long as getting back together is off the table, of course.
Author Nancy B Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Thanks for the responses guys. I was a little hotheaded this morning. But I've calmed down now and everything you say makes sense. I think a friendship is possible in the future maybe. Although he keeps picking fights with me recently. When I ask does he even wanna be friends he says 'Thats up to you, you obviously dont if you ask me that.' Which is crazy cause when he ended it he pleaded to be friends, yet picks fights every two days. I feel frustrated. It's like he's a different person. Still, I've come a long way, guess I'll just create more space for now.
Frank13 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Although he keeps picking fights with me recently. When I ask does he even wanna be friends he says 'Thats up to you, you obviously dont if you ask me that.' Which is crazy cause when he ended it he pleaded to be friends, yet picks fights every two days. When this has happened with me, it usually meant emotions were still there. His not answering the phone could have been his way of trying to hurt you because he felt hurt by you.
TaraMaiden Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I think he's being immature and manipulative. Putting the burden on her as to whether there's a friendship or not, when clearly, all he wants is a leg-over. He's toying and being a jerk. OP: Time to go No Contact.
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