123321 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Yes, the second is what I meant. Your belief system is going to be what determines the choices you make to live your life. Do you actually agree with me on something I always agree with you when you are right.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I always agree with you when you are right. Good thing I am always right!
SarahRose Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 They are bitter because they weren't the ones banging the young hot girls. Now they perceive themselves to have some type of advantage, they want to make every woman pay for them missing out. 2
Disenchantedly Yours Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 They are bitter because they weren't the ones banging the young hot girls. Now they perceive themselves to have some type of advantage, they want to make every woman pay for them missing out. You'd think they would be a lot happier by now with that advantage they say they got.
proseandpassion Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 Patently false. When I was 18 I had bad acne, a bad haircut, bad fashion sense (because I was a TEENAGER and didn't have an income), and TERRIBLE self esteem. My body wasn't any better than it is now. In fact, I am the same size now at age 32 than I was then. Now I make a good income (which is useful for quality cosmetics, hair cuts, clothes, and shoes--a HUGE part of someone's attractiveness), I am better at sex, I laugh more and take things less seriously, and my confidence has increased like, 300%. Also, beauty fades... or at least conventional beauty does. And ugly goes deep to the bone. So all this importance heaved upon looks is just stupid.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 That's fu.cking sick and creepy. At last we agree on something.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 I certainly didn't peak at 18. That would have been very depressing.
123321 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I certainly didn't peak at 18. That would have been very depressing. Physical vigor and appearance often peaks somewhere around 16-24 or so, it of course varies from individual to individual, I would place mine around 20. This is pretty typical. However vigor and appearance are only a couple of facets of physical wellness and physicality itself is a single facet of overall capability. When people talk about peaking there has to be some context to make the term meaningful. This thread seems to be talking about the economics of dating, or a persons "dating currency" as it's often discussed. In those terms men do peak later than women simply because for the most part the facets that make a man a desirable "success object" are different than the ones that make a woman a "sex object". While I believe this is demonstrably true it's a pretty myopic way to look at a person outside the very limited realm of trying to get a date.
Dismantled Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I sincerely don't get this mentalty but I have heard it a lot around message board land. People visably bitter that other people's priorities change with age. I am not out looking for guys that banged lots of women, but if I dated a guy that had his fair share of sexual escapades in his youth and now wanted to settle down, and he changes his dating pattern because of that, why would that make me embittered? The reality is that as we get older,our priorities are going to change. Some people will have a lot of sexual experience and eventually come to a place where that is no longer fulfilling to them and they will want a more serious commitment. Other people won't come to that place at all. I'm not saying you have to be with a woman if you believe sexual history is important in context of number of people they slept with. I just don't get the bitterness about it. There is bitterness about it because the guys women date in their late 20's or early 30's they would not have dated at 23. While women are out partying with all the hunks running a train on her at 25, guys like me are sitting at home with a fifth of vodka chain smoking eating Lil Caesars and watching Freddy Got Fingered for the 500th time. The bitterness is exactly the same for people who one day win the lottery and suddenly have a bunch of brand new "friends" at their doorstep.
Author Bob_Funk Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Patently false. When I was 18 I had bad acne, a bad haircut, bad fashion sense (because I was a TEENAGER and didn't have an income), and TERRIBLE self esteem. My body wasn't any better than it is now. In fact, I am the same size now at age 32 than I was then. Now I make a good income (which is useful for quality cosmetics, hair cuts, clothes, and shoes--a HUGE part of someone's attractiveness), I am better at sex, I laugh more and take things less seriously, and my confidence has increased like, 300%. Also, beauty fades... or at least conventional beauty does. And ugly goes deep to the bone. So all this importance heaved upon looks is just stupid. Age detracts from a woman's appearance way more than acne or a bad haircut does. And guys don't care about your fashion sense, confidence, or sexual prowess (it's not exactly rocket science). Those things don't make the flag pole rise. Sorry to say, but unless you were obese or something in your younger years, you'll never look as hot, smell as lovely, feel as tight, or get as wet as you did back then. Then again, if you don't derive your self worth from your ability to turn guys on, none of this should matter to you.
proseandpassion Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Age detracts from a woman's appearance way more than acne or a bad haircut does. And guys don't care about your fashion sense, confidence, or sexual prowess (it's not exactly rocket science). Those things don't make the flag pole rise. Sorry to say, but unless you were obese or something in your younger years, you'll never look as hot, smell as lovely, feel as tight, or get as wet as you did back then. Then again, if you don't derive your self worth from your ability to turn guys on, none of this should matter to you. Jeez, you really zinged me there. Your post above proves you have almost no experience with real women. Good luck masturbating!
Emilia Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 What I've never understood is how it's perfectly fine for women to have myriad of standards at, say, 20 whereby they reject certain men but if these same men work out and/or get successful they're somehow bad people for having standards of their own. All kidding aside I would really like to know why this is. This argument comes up the other way round too, it will always depend on your point of view. Not something that can be debated objectively I don't think
Emilia Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Age detracts from a woman's appearance way more than acne or a bad haircut does. And guys don't care about your fashion sense, confidence, or sexual prowess (it's not exactly rocket science). Those things don't make the flag pole rise. Are you sure you are not gay? Sorry to say, but unless you were obese or something in your younger years, you'll never look as hot, smell as lovely, feel as tight, or get as wet as you did back then. It might be the escorts you have been sleeping with
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