Leneisa Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 I've posted a similar post in another forum yesterday but I'm trying to learn how to deal with it now. My still technically boyfriend hasn't responded to any of my texts for 4 days now after a fight, two of those days I didn't text him at all. I know theres a huge chance of a break up so sadly it's been hard for me to eat, sleep, and be happy. I just want to know how to cope with this, I know I'm losing him and I really love him so it's been hard for me to just accept he's gone and to move on. I've been crying for days, not eating very much, and have been emotionally stressed out. Any pointers?
Fortune Cookie Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 I'd love to help, but I'm not quite sure what the situation is. I don't know even if he's worth your efforts or not. I'll outline my thoughts so far, but due to the rather limited information I can only do so much. 1. He may well be waiting for you to apologize so he can boost his ego and confidence a little -some men are childish enough to act like that. If that is one of his qualities though, well... I wouldn't think very highly of him. Of course, you're the one who knows him. You've said practically nothing about him thus far. :/ 2. He may well have already mentally broken up with you and breaking contact may be his way of breaking up. I find it rather immature, but it may well be the case - if so, analyze your relationship, the positives and negatives of his character (or lack thereof) and wait for what time you think best. Eventually, be prepared to just go on with your life. 3. The above two responses are likelier if you're somewhere between 14-30 or so, but perhaps he's not at one of those ages that so often display such immature behaviors. If that's the case, than maybe this is the situation: If you know he truly loves you and tries, then perhaps you can reach out and attempt a compromise or civil conversation. Perhaps what the fight was about was a relatively trivial matter; I know not. What I do see, however, is the simple fact that it seems his initiation of a perhaps temporary "no contact" policy hurts you more than him. If it bothers you so, then perhaps you can contact him through another medium: going to his house, talking to him on another messenger system or relaying a message through a friend. It is important to note I lack context. Any of the following information would help: length of time you both have been dating each other, approximate ages, details on the fight and actions taken during it, behavioral patterns from either of you, main personality characteristics, approximate quantity of past dating experience. Lastly, since you are hoping to think clearly, allow yourself to do so: Make yourself eat healthily - and I do mean 3 meals a day, on time and healthy foods. Try to sleep properly. Get healthy amounts of exercise. Embroil yourself in other matters, especially physically active ones.
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