U cant sit there and wait for it to happen you got to try but does anyone have ideas?

[Lost_without_him]

OK well i need to know what people think and if they have any ideas on what i can do well here is my story...

 

I was with my ex bf for nearly a yr and we fell in love with each other and everything was great between us but then in the end of our relationship we just started to edgie around each other and one day he told me that cause i say things to him that i don't mean but hurt him it makes him feel not the same when he's with me when it happens and it started really getting to me so i tryed to make him not feel like that which was weird he put me in a bad position but wasn't his fault he was saying what he feels and i just felt like i wasn't getting any where with him so i got angry and ended it with him, which was a huge mistake i broke his heart and everything all his friends were calling me saying his crying he loves you blah blah blah and i thought about it for a while and then decided what i did was a big mistake and i wanted him back straight away.. so i left it for a while and told him the next day i ddint mean it and that i want another chance... But he wouldn't take me back and i thought OK well he's gonna punish me for a while but i tryd real hard i wrote letters email's walked all the way to his house did everything nothing ever would change his mind because he's really stubborn no one could change his mind , alot of people where agasint what he was doing with not taking me back.. but i think the more i tryed the more determand it made him to not take me back so then i gave up for a while and then called him one night and asked him if i give him a month break then we go out for a date somewhere and see what happens there because i told him i wanted to at least see how it goes cause i think we were meant to be and if we were ,we would get drawn back together on the date. but he said no if we a meant to be we will be brought back together without having to do anything.. Its now been a month nd half now since we have been broken up..

 

But don't any of you agree that even to make things happen you have to try and help for things to happen it just dosent happen on its own.. well after that i decided to let it happen on its own i stopped begging him txting him emailing and calling and we only have talked a few times on msn but yeah i still tell him i love him and stuff... and just the way he says stuff just makes me feel as if he still does like me and yeah.. dose anyone have any ideas on how to change his mind without pushing and writing letters and stuff because that just pushes him away even more, and do anyone agree that for things to happen you cant just sit there and wait for it to happen you gotta get up and try..

 

Please help and give me some advice..

[Yeti]

there isn't a whole lot of advice to be given, a relationship takes two people. i think you need to move on from this one, let him go. i myself am going through the hardest break-up i've ever been through before, right now. just don't think about the what-ifs... that's the key. hey, it could always be worse, i'm stuck with a ring...

 

- Yeti