sendme Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 So my current bf cheated on me, long complicated story posted elsewhere... one of the women he cheated with is married to a cop... my current bf works in law enforcement as well... that's a huge deal in the law enforcement/military circle... you just don't screw another cops wife... Anyway, although my current bf doesn't have any real attachment to the woman, it was essentially a one night stand... I found her husband through a law enforcement directory, and contacted him and left a message essentially saying "this is so strange to do over voicemail, and I'm not sure how much information to leave, but I have evidence your wife is cheating on you, and I thought you should know, even from a stranger..." and then I left my number. Anyway, I think I did it a) because I just couldn't get over the idea of some poor cop coming home everyday and sleeping next to his wife in the bed where she screwed another cop b) to cause as much drama in her life as she's caused in mine. So was it a good call? I mean people have a right to know if they're being cheated on, or was it totally immature? maybe a little of both? Would you have done it?
Lisa_Lisa Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 I'm not sure, really. Did you work things out with your current bf? If she caused a lot of drama between you two then I'm assuming you two are still probably working on his break of loyalty and trust. As for me, I reached out to the girl my ex was cheating on me with and told her he and I were in relationship in case she thought he was single. I didn't feel any remorse and was happy that she knew. I don't know what happened immediately after that, but she later reached out to me and said she left him when she found out about us. I don't know, since I did something similar, I can't say that it was good or bad. All I know is that you said something you thought this cop should know. If you felt right doing it then its already been done. We'll see what happens. But I can't personally say it was immature or whatever. We let our emotions get the best of us sometimes regardless of the consequences.
g450 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Absolutely! You did the right thing. Her H has a right to know what a piece of filth his wife is.
Sugarkane Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I think I would want to do it. The problem Is if they don't believe you. I wish someone had told me when I was being lied too and cheated on, instead of hiding it.
haribogumsnickers Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You should've left your cheating ex-bf's number instead of yours. Cheaters never win in life but maybe in call of duty. Campers.
g450 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I think I would want to do it. The problem Is if they don't believe you. I wish someone had told me when I was being lied too and cheated on, instead of hiding it. Doesnt matter if they believe her or not. Once the cat is out of the bag I guarantee they will go looking for evidence for themselves. And they will find it.
Author sendme Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 yeah... I don't know if I care whether or not he believes it... although I have enough details about the inside of his house and his wife and the dates (for instance their sprinklers were malfunctioning and the repairman was coming the morning after my bf slept with her) that it's pretty provable.... I thought about leaving my bf's number, but as I'm not sure where I stand yet on calling it off or working through it I figured I'd try to leave myself out of the drama.... at least for now... will see if her husband calls me and go from there. Since I left the message on his office phone I imagine he won't get it until Monday...
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