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I am from Southern part of India & the culture here is a bit restrictive.I don't know where to start,let me introduce myself.I just graduated this year & looking for a job.I think of one girl all my life until now & the series of incidents happened between us made her avoid me(i don't understand why?).

 

I am 26 now(my love is 24) & in my life until now I loved a girl who was a classmate.I started to love her since I was 10 .we used to play a lot together & she always used to be a partner of mine in any game.This happened until i was 15(i never proposed to her thinking that we aren't mature enough) and the graduation created a gap between us.I haven't seen her for 5 years but never quited thinking of her.then(in 2008) i got her phone number and called her.She spoke with me for more than 1 hour remembering about all past memories.I pretended that i forgot so that i can personally meet her & surprise her.From then we are SMS'ing regularly ,talking phone.

 

I couldn't get a chance to meet her personally .I always said that i want to talk to you personally(so that I can propose to her) & she said sure.One day i finally made up things so that i can go to her place and meet her.I called her & said that i was boarding the train so that i can meet you tomorrow.She said that she is goin to hospital due to her friends father has got an operation.I said ok and i said if there is any possibility meet me.She said ok.

 

Next day i reached the place(very excited),and called her phone.She didn't lift the phone.I had tried all the day but no reply.In the evening the phone was lifted and said that "I am her mother,she has gone to hospital with her friend".The voice seemed ditto and I thught that it was her who is playing with me(not seriously,for fun,I did'nt know english much to explain better).I took it lite and texted her that "Is that you who talked on the phone and said that......."(funnily).But she took it very serious and stopped communicating with me.She doesn't lift phone,doesn't reply to texts.I have tried to contact her but couldn't get to her.I have tried for a month & stopped calling not to disturb her much(I don't want to hurt her by any means).

 

Three months have passed on & a missed call came from her.When i called back she first rejected the call.but after 3 tries she finally lifted the call and said that she called me by accident.After this incident there is no contact for again three months.

 

Finally one day while i was returning hometown by train I met her(While i was booking tickets I prayed to god to make her board the same train as she completed her graduation exams and would be returning to her hometown(same place)).My dream came true ,After keeping my luggage at my seat,while i was getting down for a water bottle i saw her sitting in the next division of the same compartment.I was stunned.My heart started pounding at 120 BPM.but she is along with her mother . I started to text her that i was on the same train,in the mean time she saw me & called me.I finally met her & greeted her & her mother formally(In that situation the wallpaper in my phone was her photo found on Socialnetw site) I couldn't get a chance to talk to her personally until morning(I didn't slept the whole night,felt terrible when the person is near you & have to wait till the morning).

 

In the morning we finally sat opposite to each other(while her mother is sleeping opposite to us) and started to talk.I was glad that the train was going to destination 4 HRS late. We talked how our school life etc etc.In the conversation she needs to charge the phone and i got a chance to talk to her more personally.I told that i was shocked seeing her.I started to explaining her why i wanted to meet her & couldn't express my feeling (But i clearly understood that she know my love intension).I had no control of what i was talking.In the mean i told her that i gathered information about her so that i can give her a surprise(I also told that please understand why i am showing this much interest in her)She pretended that she knows nothing and she kept on asking "why are u doing all this?,You are not alright etc.." .I told everything to her cause i want to be true to her.

 

Finally the destination came and I got soooo confused with my conversation that i even forgot to wish her .

 

From that day on I have called many times,many texts but noo replies.I know where she is.After 3 years(in 2011 December) When i called from another number(to say birthday wishes) she lifted and when I said that it was me ,She said "Please don't call me again and don't loose your respect as a school friend".

 

I stopped calling from then.I never actually said 'I Love You' to her,but i can strongly say she knows that i love her.

 

But i still love her soo much that can't forget her.I always wish happiness to her even if she chooses another partner.I still doesn't loose hope that she also loves me(May be its my selfishness,but many more incidents which happened similarly as explained above made me believe that she also thinks abt me).

 

Earlier I thought nothing is impossible,But after meeting her I realized that understanding a woman is the toughest & impossible .I have said many sorries to her that to anybody.

 

I want you guys n gals please guide me.Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee:(

 

Why she is avoiding me?(Girls please answer)

Have i made any mistake(or lots of)?( I can't just talk to her properly even on phone as my body gets heated up & my heart starts beating really fast)

I can i proceed further now?

Is it too late?

Is there any possibility that she loves me?

I still love her,is there any possibility that she even thinks of me?

I can't imagine my future without her.

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Why she is avoiding me?(Girls please answer)

Have i made any mistake(or lots of)?( I can't just talk to her properly even on phone as my body gets heated up & my heart starts beating really fast)

I can i proceed further now?

Is it too late?

Is there any possibility that she loves me?

I still love her,is there any possibility that she even thinks of me?

I can't imagine my future without her.

 

 

 

 

 

Dude i dont know u but u seem to be a pretty emotionally sensitive guy no offence though...i think u r taking this entire issue way too seriously

Love is just a state of ones mind so irrespective of whether or not u have a future with her im pretty sure that presently u shouldnt waste ur time thinking of her bcoz no matter how hard u think of her, it will not help in anyway to persuade her to call u or communicate.

 

It aint too late but seriously dude do u think shez worth it after ignoring u so much,i mean even if u two get together in the future what guarentees do u have that she wont treat u like this....im sure as hell she'll start being bossy n authoritative which is something u dont want at any cost.....I mean no offence to u my friend but personally i broke up with my girlfrnd cuz she din reply to 1 call n later she apologised quite afew times but i din allow her cuz u need to be a lil rigid when it comes to such things....after sum time we patched up n now shez lik damn scared bfore i call so inturn calls me bforehand.....i tink im goin offtrack here anywz the point is the more u show her that u are needy n the more u try contacting the more she'll avoid u cuz honestly some girls luv the chase game.May be she thinks of u but until unless she comes back to u id suggest not going after her....focus all ur thoughts on achieving success and make sumthing of urself...bcome an achiever n show her that u can do better without her n in the end im sure she'll notice it and come back to u...in case she doesnt then still its alright...atleast ull have something to be proud.

lifez too short dude so chill who knows ull probably find some one better:)

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Why she is avoiding me?(Girls please answer)

Have i made any mistake(or lots of)?( I can't just talk to her properly even on phone as my body gets heated up & my heart starts beating really fast)

I can i proceed further now?

Is it too late?

Is there any possibility that she loves me?

I still love her,is there any possibility that she even thinks of me?

I can't imagine my future without her.

 

 

 

 

Dude i dont know u but u seem to be a pretty emotionally sensitive guy no offence though...
I am amazed that you found me sensitive (I am really).

 

i think u r taking this entire issue way too seriously

Love is just a state of ones mind so irrespective of whether or not u have a future with her im pretty sure that presently u shouldnt waste ur time thinking of her bcoz no matter how hard u think of her, it will not help in anyway to persuade her to call u or communicate.

 

It aint too late but seriously dude do u think shez worth it after ignoring u so much,i mean even if u two get together in the future what guarentees do u have that she wont treat u like this....im sure as hell she'll start being bossy n authoritative which is something u dont want at any cost.....I mean no offence to u my friend

but personally i broke up with my girlfrnd cuz she din reply to 1 call n later she apologised quite afew times but i din allow her cuz u need to be a lil rigid when it comes to such things....after sum time we patched up n now shez lik damn scared bfore i call so inturn calls me bforehand.....i tink im goin offtrack [/QOUTE]

I hope u both were together now..

 

here anywz the point is the more u show her that u are needy n the more u try contacting the more she'll avoid u cuz honestly some girls luv the chase game.May be she thinks of u but until unless she comes back to u id suggest not going after her....focus all ur thoughts on achieving success and make sumthing of urself...bcome an achiever n show her that u can do better without her n in the end im sure she'll notice it and come back to u...in case she doesnt then still its alright...atleast ull have something to be proud.

lifez too short dude so chill who knows ull probably find some one better:)

Thanks for reading my lengthy love story

no matter how hard u think of her, it will not help in anyway to persuade her to call u or communicate.
Its true.

 

she din reply to 1 call n later she apologised quite afew times but i din allow her cuz u need to be a lil rigid when it comes to such things
This did happen to me many times,but i was so weak that I didn't let her to apologise :(

 

The words you say eased my mind very much. But the way she talked to me doesn't let me forget her.I am trying.Thank you my friend.

 

Any more suggestions r welcome

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