thatone Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 (edited) From the female's position, sex once per week is good enough for a serious R. It has nothing to do with her love. Sex and love are different things. She might love you and she might not want to have sex with you so often as you want. Desire to have sex depends on her sex drive and it does not depend on her love. Don't be so sure that other girls would die to have intercourses as often as you do unless they have nothing else going on in their life (no job, no family, no friends, no other problems). Girls do not have as much testosterone as you do to have the male's libido as you have. tell that to my gf. she could have sex twice a day every day. i have to slow HER down, not the other way around. just because you seem to equate sex with misery (no job, family, friends? wtf) doesn't mean other people have the same issues you do. do everyone a favor and deal with your problems alone rather than trying to make everyone else as miserable as you are. OK, she told you that she cannot have an O. It means she is very naive and believes that you are capable to understand it. So, you made her feel insecure and deficient. She feels hopeless with you and with all your techniques that she has probably never asked you to use on her body. So, that is very natural that she prefers to stay away from sex with you. You do not let her be herself and you want from her impossible sexual abilities. You are right that most men do not have any problems in the bedroom and most girls are fine with sex because the girls do not want to destroy a great R because of things that are not important for them. The girls are sensitive and they do not want to hurt their guy's manhood with the useless truth that they have no O. no it doesn't. it means she is naive and insecure on her own, and you're just trying to empathize with her. men don't make women insecure and feel deficient, they come from the factory that way, those aren't aftermarket modifications. yeah, it's very natural for her to prefer staying away from sex with him....while she'd prefer sex with someone else. the fact that she got mad when he suggested spending more time with her is a dead giveaway. the classic 'guilty' response, because her lies are threatened by that. the question is, why do you feel a need to defend some random woman you've never met when the above is the case? Edited July 28, 2012 by thatone 1
mickleb Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Thank you ... Truth is we met last year, then talked on facebook for 6 months prior to her coming back to my country.... So it´s not a relationship that just started (physically yes). Love? Maybe not... Ive been single for 3 years, and to be honest, yes I developed feelings for her, but if this is what I get for investing emotionally in her and a relationship, I don´t think it´s worth my while... Better off be single and wait for someone that is able to reciprocate... When you've had a long period of being single, as you have, it's easy to get confused when you fall into a relationship. You missed feeling the butterflies, having someone to do things for, the day-dreaming, and that sense of 'belonging'. You also missed sex! That creates a heady cocktail of hormones that feel like love but, really, are not. And those feelings can make a guy or a girl go quite loopy for a while. I think your head is beginning to take control again, and you're wising up to the fact that your situation is beyond ideal. I wanted to add that I would agree that you could consider all the reasons why your GF might be making excuses for avoiding sex (including your responsibility for the issue) IF this were a LTR. But it hs only been two months. You shouldn't need to be analysing it on that level yet, and I doubt VERY much that she is, at all. For whatever reason, the bottom line is that you two are not compatible. Sucks but it happens. Use your newly awakened heart to inspire you to go fishing for a better catch. Good luck. 1
Author whathurtsthemost Posted July 28, 2012 Author Posted July 28, 2012 no it doesn't. it means she is naive and insecure on her own, and you're just trying to empathize with her. men don't make women insecure and feel deficient, they come from the factory that way, those aren't aftermarket modifications. yeah, it's very natural for her to prefer staying away from sex with him....while she'd prefer sex with someone else. Yep, did cross my mind especially as she is very open with male friends and goes drinking alone with them... probably due to low self esteem and daddy issues and craves the attention... not a good combination in my experience... the fact that she got mad when he suggested spending more time with her is a dead giveaway. the classic 'guilty' response, because her lies are threatened by that. ... Yes, I did notice that red flag... especially when your boyf tells you they want to spend at least once a week with you, has made every effort to plan it and misses you because he "loves you"... Any woman that gets mad at tender statements like that is a red flag that something is wrong... Thanks dude
thatone Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 no prob, i'm guessing from your situation that you're probably in your 20s? probably never considered yourself "in love" before? when you find a girl that's completely head over heels for you, and not the other way around, you'll see the difference as night and day, and will be able to easily spot and not put up with these sorts of issues ever again, trust me 1
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