Jamesblame Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Yesterday, around 2 am, I received a text from an old ex. She said: I'm thinking a lot about you, and I can't sleep because of it. Now, by this time in our friendship,I've moved on by 90%. I don't want to get back together with her, and I certainly don't want to date her again. But my ego would love to hear that she wants me and misses me. Just as it would also want her to never date again. Now, after waking up and seeing this text, I responded and then called her on my way to work. No response. At work, on Facebook, I saw she was on and again attempted to talk to her. No response. And this my friend is how breadcrumbs work. They are nonsensical, ego-driven messages that exist for the sole purpose of getting you to respond to them. They don't want an answer, they don't want to respond. All they want is for YOU to try to get in touch with them. Now, I'm in a good spot. I date all the time, and tonight it looks like I may seal the deal with a new woman. Exciting, and it leaves me out of this 'friend's" manipulative power (outside of my ego). But for other people...well it just sucks. And it's important to not respond unless you are 100% ok with that person not responding. Go NC if you think it's best for you. I waited til I traded up several times over.
Author Jamesblame Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 And now as a follow up...to illustrate why vulnerable people shouldn't take breadcrumbs. After getting in touch with my ex I found out that she was upset because she missed me but couldn't make feelings that weren't there, present. In other words, she called to say that she didn't have emotional feelings for me. You don't need a message like this if you're vulnerable to rejection and heartache.
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