b0red Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 This will probably end up long, but I really need some good advice, so thanks in advance. This girl works at a coffee shop next to my work, and around March / April we started to talk a little, after about a month of small chat, I asked her to hangout -- well to my surprise she has a boyfriend.. No mention of this guy and we've chatted enough within the month that it should have come up imo. Anyways, it was no big deal and I kept going in for drinks, but she opened up to me a lot more now. This is when the conversations really started, and she told me where she's from, her college, major, classes, she went on a two week vacation and had told me pretty much every detail of this vacation including her freaking flight schedule. She even told me that she has diabetes, and had a tumor in third grade (I would think that stuff would be private).. She went on the two week vacation and when she got back all seemed normal. I went into the shop for a drink, asked her how the vacation was and she just opened right up. Saw her best friend, visited their old preschool teacher, went to six flags, got a tattoo (showed me the tattoo).. Now wtf -- the last few times I went in (not including today) she would barely look at me.. She made my drink once and disappeared into the back. WTF?? I also noticed that a picture of her and her boyfriend got deleted on FB (added her before her vacation). There was only two pictures of him on her FB so it was easy to notice when the one got deleted.. Also the day after photo deletion her FB got deactivated so I'm guessing they broke up... Go in today, she's taking my order and it just is an awkwardness now so i asked how her day was and BAM she opens up again!?!???!?!? She started telling me about next semesters classes, what days / times they are, how she had to pay $1200 and is going to go get books soon etc etc.. Best convo we've had since she got back from vacation two weeks ago... I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore. Obviously I have a crush on her, but I don't want to keep wasting my time, but I also don't want to miss out. How can I find out if she's did breakup with him? Should I even ask her and hangout or is that stupid because I got turned down by her once. Any advice on what I should do?
haribogumsnickers Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 You're doing great...but seriously, delete your FB immediately. I'm in no position to offer good advice. I would ask her out again but that's just me.
thehead Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 This will probably end up long, but I really need some good advice, so thanks in advance. This girl works at a coffee shop next to my work, and around March / April we started to talk a little, after about a month of small chat, I asked her to hangout -- well to my surprise she has a boyfriend.. No mention of this guy and we've chatted enough within the month that it should have come up imo. Anyways, it was no big deal and I kept going in for drinks, but she opened up to me a lot more now. This is when the conversations really started, and she told me where she's from, her college, major, classes, she went on a two week vacation and had told me pretty much every detail of this vacation including her freaking flight schedule. She even told me that she has diabetes, and had a tumor in third grade (I would think that stuff would be private).. She went on the two week vacation and when she got back all seemed normal. I went into the shop for a drink, asked her how the vacation was and she just opened right up. Saw her best friend, visited their old preschool teacher, went to six flags, got a tattoo (showed me the tattoo).. Now wtf -- the last few times I went in (not including today) she would barely look at me.. She made my drink once and disappeared into the back. WTF?? I also noticed that a picture of her and her boyfriend got deleted on FB (added her before her vacation). There was only two pictures of him on her FB so it was easy to notice when the one got deleted.. Also the day after photo deletion her FB got deactivated so I'm guessing they broke up... Go in today, she's taking my order and it just is an awkwardness now so i asked how her day was and BAM she opens up again!?!???!?!? She started telling me about next semesters classes, what days / times they are, how she had to pay $1200 and is going to go get books soon etc etc.. Best convo we've had since she got back from vacation two weeks ago... I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore. Obviously I have a crush on her, but I don't want to keep wasting my time, but I also don't want to miss out. How can I find out if she's did breakup with him? Should I even ask her and hangout or is that stupid because I got turned down by her once. Any advice on what I should do? Sorry to say it doesn't look that promising. The way she's opening up to you reminds me of how girl friends talk to one another. Once she said a boyfriend was in the picture, it set a boundary and she likely felt more comfortable talking to you. Don't get that mixed up with her giving you the green light. Her moodiness might be related to relationship problems so you really want to be that guy who swoops in when she's going through stuff? Avoid being the rebound guy and give her space. If they wind up breaking up down the road, ask her out.
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