2.50 a gallon Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 That is how I met my Ex-fiance, on the night I met her she was running the register, she wasn't wearing a name tag, so I asked her what her name was, then told her mine, and asked her out. She said no thank you at least half a dozen time over the next 10 weeks, and then said yes I guess that is the difference between me and most of the guys on this board, as I can't imagine seeing some one that I was super attracted to, and just let her walk out of my life forever without giving it a shot. Think about it! What are the chances that you will ever meet her again?
TheWatcher Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Not to mention the ones that turned into only a first date or one night stand. What did these guys say to you that made you accept their advances ? I'm assuming that they were your exact physical type but what was it that made them successful ? Did you smile at them first ? Give them a look that said "Come on over and say hi..." or did they approach you out of the blue ? To the point that you didn't even see them coming ? I cold-approached one girl on the street last month, it led to a date and we are still in touch. I met another girl on the street two months ago, we had 3 dates and some make-out sessions. I cold-approached another girl during a street fair a few weeks ago, we had sex on the second date. A woman I cold-approached 4 years ago in a coffee shop is one of my closest friends. There's more than that. I'm in my late 30's, 5'7". AND I live in a smaller town. May I ask where do you live ? What did you say to these women when you first approached them ? Did you get any indication beforehand that they would be receptive to you ?
SJC2008 Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 I'm curious to know how many people here have had successful dating stories come from cold approaches. Successful in this case meaning it lead to several dates, sex, or both. Of all the men I know that are successful with women, not one just randomly approached a female in the street. All the success came from social circles. Whether school, work, friends of friends, or groups for specific hobbies/interests. I believe that's the best way to do it, but I'm curious as to how many women have had successful experiences with guys who just approached them randomly on the street. Are you guarded if a guy approaches you like that? Do you think he's some pick up artist trying to put the moves on you? Do you think he's just a nice guy who had the courage to approach you out of nowhere? Since the beginning of time the MAJORITY of people meet their so's at work, school, or through social circles!
SJC2008 Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 I've heard that. I've also heard it's not a cold approach if she gives you inviting signs to approach I would like somebody to give us a clear definition of the word "cold approach" Good question. I have asked customers at my job for numbers. Now I don't know them from atom BUT we are "forced" to intereact with eachother and that gives me a chance to gauge her interest (heaven forbid a woman giving a clear cut sigh). Now it's not as ballsy as walking up to a woman you see at a book store and chatting her up but it still takes nuts becase you don't know if she's interested, single and you don't have any liquid confidence in you lol. I'd say it's a cold apporach but not 100%. Mabye we should come up with tiers of cold approaches lol! 100%= Approaching a woman you have never met somewhere OTHER than a bar/club and chat her up and ask for a number. 66%= What I do, asking out a customer or vice versa. There is a forced interaction which helps you size the situation up, ballsy but not 100% 33%= Approaching a woman at a bar. I'm not saying it's easy as I've yet to do it but it brings the ballsy factor down when you have liquid confidence in you.
Woggle Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Most of dates were through cold approaches and a few more were through getting to know people by seeing them frequently.
fishtaco Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 I have. If we want to get technical, there are different levels of cold approaches too. The most cold, is you hit on a complete stranger. Less cold is you hit on a stranger but, you've interacted in some manner before. Since I don't have the skill of a player, I find the ultra cold approach to have very low chances of success, and didn't do it as often as I should. Although I've managed to pull it off before. More likely is I'd do the ultra cold approach, she'd turn me down, because women by default are defensive. Then after we run into each other a couple of times, suddenly she's open to it. Out of the 4 women I managed to get a date or more, the last group before I started my relationship: 1) ultra cold approach, met her at a club, asked her out...etc. 2) slightly less cold, since we've seen each other and share a mutual friend, but I never interacted with her. She had her bitch shield on so I pretty much ignored her. Which BTW worked. Because that got her attention. 3) acquaintance, mutual circle of friends, met at a party awhile back. 4) friend's sister in law, so although not exactly a friend, but more like a strong acquaintance. They all bombed out. I got dropped by 1, 3, 4, I dropped 2.
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