Success of Cold Approaching?

[MrCastle]

I'm curious to know how many people here have had successful dating stories come from cold approaches. Successful in this case meaning it lead to several dates, sex, or both.

 

Of all the men I know that are successful with women, not one just randomly approached a female in the street. All the success came from social circles. Whether school, work, friends of friends, or groups for specific hobbies/interests.

 

I believe that's the best way to do it, but I'm curious as to how many women have had successful experiences with guys who just approached them randomly on the street.

 

Are you guarded if a guy approaches you like that? Do you think he's some pick up artist trying to put the moves on you? Do you think he's just a nice guy who had the courage to approach you out of nowhere?

[miss_jaclynrae]

I'm curious to know how many people here have had successful dating stories come from cold approaches. Successful in this case meaning it lead to several dates, sex, or both.

 

Of all the men I know that are successful with women, not one just randomly approached a female in the street. All the success came from social circles. Whether school, work, friends of friends, or groups for specific hobbies/interests.

 

I believe that's the best way to do it, but I'm curious as to how many women have had successful experiences with guys who just approached them randomly on the street.

 

Are you guarded if a guy approaches you like that? Do you think he's some pick up artist trying to put the moves on you? Do you think he's just a nice guy who had the courage to approach you out of nowhere?

 

 

 

I go on dates that were "cold" approaches more often than not.

One was a customer, a few from my local bar, one from a bookstore, another from party where I knew no one.... All of them led to more than one date.

[MrCastle]

I go on dates that were "cold" approaches more often than not.

One was a customer, a few from my local bar, one from a bookstore, another from party where I knew no one.... All of them led to more than one date.

 

Hmm. Interesting

[miss_jaclynrae]

Hmm. Interesting

 

Not to mention the ones that turned into only a first date or one night stand.

[MrCastle]

Not to mention the ones that turned into only a first date or one night stand.

 

Naughty Naughty

[Silly_Girl]

It's not something I ever hear of happening in my circle.

[MrCastle]

It's not something I ever hear of happening in my circle.

 

Yeah. I'm 24 and it's not something I've heard of either.

 

When my friends speak to me about dating, it's always the same "This girl from work", "This girl from my class"...it's never started with "this girl I approached on the street".

[brahmabull117]

I go on dates that were "cold" approaches more often than not.

One was a customer, a few from my local bar, one from a bookstore, another from party where I knew no one.... All of them led to more than one date.

 

 

 

would these be considered cold approaches?

 

 

 

What separates a cold approach from a regular one? For example I don't see a big difference in the work approach vs school approach

[miss_jaclynrae]

would these be considered cold approaches?

 

 

 

What separates a cold approach from a regular one? For example I don't see a big difference in the work approach vs school approach

 

I guess the difference is that a cold approach is someone who you absolutely do not already know or have formerly spent any significant time with.

 

Right?

[MrCastle]

I guess the difference is that a cold approach is someone who you absolutely do not already know or have formerly spent any significant time with.

 

Right?

 

Correct. Just walking up to a stranger on the street. That's cold.

 

I rely on what I call warm approaches. Approaching girls in your immediate social life. So I approach a girl in class, it's not cold per say, because we go to class together, so we see each other everytime we have that class. I'm not a total stranger.

[brahmabull117]

Correct. Just walking up to a stranger on the street. That's cold.

 

I rely on what I call warm approaches. Approaching girls in your immediate social life. So I approach a girl in class, it's not cold per say, because we go to class together, so we see each other everytime we have that class.

 

 

what about work/bar/store/gym?

 

 

 

Also what if it's a bar but you see her giving you a smile?

[miss_jaclynrae]

Correct. Just walking up to a stranger on the street. That's cold.

 

I rely on what I call warm approaches. Approaching girls in your immediate social life. So I approach a girl in class, it's not cold per say, because we go to class together, so we see each other everytime we have that class. I'm not a total stranger.

 

Cold appraoches are all I get. I also work with an older group of people, the young ones are all taken and work is ALL I do.

[MrCastle]

what about work/bar/store/gym?

 

 

 

Also what if it's a bar but you see her giving you a smile?

 

If she's not involved in your immediate social life, it's cold.

 

Work, not if it's a coworker because you're interacting with them. You know them, at some level.

 

A bar yes, she is not socially linked to you in any way. She is a total stranger.

[MrCastle]

Cold appraoches are all I get. I also work with an older group of people, the young ones are all taken and work is ALL I do.

 

How old are you Miss Jac

[thehead]

what about work/bar/store/gym?

 

 

 

Also what if it's a bar but you see her giving you a smile?

 

My definition probably differs. I consider it a "cold approach" when it happens in a setting where socializing isn't expected. In a bar, plenty of people mingle. In a grocery store, not so much.

[brahmabull117]

My definition probably differs. I consider it a "cold approach" when it happens in a setting where socializing isn't expected. In a bar, plenty of people mingle. In a grocery store, not so much.

 

 

 

I've heard that. I've also heard it's not a cold approach if she gives you inviting signs to approach

 

 

 

I would like somebody to give us a clear definition of the word "cold approach"

[MrCastle]

I've heard that. I've also heard it's not a cold approach if she gives you inviting signs to approach

 

 

 

I would like somebody to give us a clear definition of the word "cold approach"

 

You're approaching a complete stranger. IOI's or not, you still approached someone you've never met before.

[miss_jaclynrae]

How old are you Miss Jac

 

22. The men I have dated in those situations has ranged from 23-32.

[Necromancer]

Where i live cold app never happen at day time. At night/bars involved with alcohol, yes.

 

i know two good looking guys and they told me they could never just start conversation with random gal on the street. I don't think it's look based more like attitude and most guys don't have that attitude. When you don't give a **** approaching is like doing housework.

[ThaWholigan]

I'm black and live in a predominantly black social environment, so the cold approach is quite common, and has something of a 50/50 success rate. However, it's still not as effective as dating someone you know, even slightly. There are always the top circles that beautiful people roll in, and they all date each other - to an extent as there are always equally or exceptionally beautiful outliers (from both genders).

[Emilia]

Are you guarded if a guy approaches you like that? Do you think he's some pick up artist trying to put the moves on you? Do you think he's just a nice guy who had the courage to approach you out of nowhere?

 

It depends on the environment. Literally on the street yes I am guarded, I live in South London in an inner city, people get mugged a lot in that area, I'm always on my guard even if I'm in a better area.

 

Bars and the gym are different though, I talk to guys there all the time and dated some. They weren't pick up artists, just normal guys who wanted to go out with a woman, often younger than me. When I was travelling I only met men through cold approach.

[counterman]

I've done this quite a few times and have had a few dates. There is a low chance of success, where success is defined as dates or sex. Of course I would prefer it if I had a more active social group and I was meeting girls regularly that way but the girls I often meet from my friends are ones I'm not attracted to. With regards to the girls in my social group, there were quite a few that were interested in me, but again, I just wasn't attracted to them. So, now, whenever I see a girl I'm attracted to, I just approach her... Bare in mind, I'm still studying and I only approach girls on my campus.

 

I'm going to keep cold approaching because I find it fun, whether a girl rejects me or not. I'm also looking for new friends, which is more important to me at the moment

[Snakechammah]

I would love to, one day, get cold approached by a guy. This has never happened!

 

I get wolf-whistled by drivers at the traffic light, weirdos trying to joke with me in the train, random guys 'double turning', checking out, stuff like that... but NEVER get approached by a stranger. I'm beginning to wonder if I have "You can look but you can't approach" tattooed on my forehead, lol..

 

Most of the interested dudes are friends-of-friends-who-happened-to-see-me-pass-by-and-asked-the-friend-who-i-was kinda thing... I find that so boring.

 

Would they ask me out if they see me passing by alone? Don't think so... They get intimidated when I'm alone!

[Imajerk17]

I cold-approached one girl on the street last month, it led to a date and we are still in touch.

 

I met another girl on the street two months ago, we had 3 dates and some make-out sessions.

 

I cold-approached another girl during a street fair a few weeks ago, we had sex on the second date.

 

A woman I cold-approached 4 years ago in a coffee shop is one of my closest friends.

 

There's more than that. I'm in my late 30's, 5'7". AND I live in a smaller town.

Edited July 27, 2012 by Imajerk17

[2.50 a gallon]

You mean like you are going up the escalater and you see this lovely vision going down the escalater and when you reach the top you sprint over to the down and chase her out into the mall and ask her for a date.

 

He!! yes, when I was dating I did this quite often.

 

And with a little less than a 50% success rate. You've got to realize that most good looking women have a boy friend.

 

And I don't recall many of them being mean spirited when they turned me down, in fact most of them let me know that they felt honored that I had approached them

 

And yes I did get a date with her, but I dropped her after one date, as she was too self centered

 

I also learned that unless I was in a semi serious relationship to not plan anything on Valentines night. As I would check out the laundermats, especially those near a bar. Then I would give them a story that I was on the way to have a drink when I noticed them by themselves on Valentines night, and it made me wonder why such a good looking woman, was alone on such a special night.

 

And I would approach them like Bob Segar song "We've got tonight"