travelinman Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I feel like I'm realizing this very late in the game. My whole life has been one on the road, my dad was in the army up until I graduated high school. We moved every 2 yrs or so to new bases, then I went in ROTC and Guard after, then into business sector on a 100% travel job, lived abroad in various places for a few years too. I guess it's in my blood. Looking back from 32 though, I'm now settled in a location a hour from my family, which is nice, but we're not extraordinarily close, just too different on our beliefs and politics and that's a bigger divide than I would have thought (I'm centrist, they're as far right as you can get). Along with that it's been a tough realization that I have plenty of drinking buddies and other casual friends, but since my best friend went completely off the radar to everyone following Iraq, I really don't have anyone I feel like I can talk with about these problems. Dating has been just as bad, I had a very serious relationship that defined college, another in my two years just after while I was in Texas and then two very ill-fated ones in the past two years. The string of failures and a rejection from someone I really felt like was a fantastic connection has made me take stock lately. As much as I'd like to deny it, the thing that matters most to me, close relationships with people I care about, isn't there at all, on the family, friends, or dating fields, and I don't know how to fix that. It's been easy to muscle through anything, work, education, getting sh*t done is just my MO and I'm tireless at it. However over the past few months I've realized just how alone I feel in one of the biggest cities in the country and I'm clueless on what to do to reverse this path. Really have no idea what to do or where to go next to improve this lot, outside of this (albeit major) facet of my life, I honestly can't complain for anything, I've seen the world, have a great education and upbringing, a fantastic job with financial security and have chased down all the interests and bucket list type things I've ever wanted to do. All that aside though it feels insignificant being reaching a mountaintop alone. There was some good (and 100% accurate) advice on here the last time I reached out a few years ago, just curious what other suggestions might come from posting again since I have exhausted my own ideas. Thanks in advance.
Ami1uwant Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 How much luck have you had in meeting people for possibility of dates? Have you been able to get to that point to ask them out? If so through what method---online dating sites or a bar?
Author travelinman Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 I have high standards for anyone I would consider for serious dating but haven't had problems meeting people, either through friends or out with friends. Decided to try match but I'm very underwhelmed by the options and the melee involved. Way too many cougars and such, no one seems to have any regard for the preferences and interests you list. This isn't just about dating it's the combination of all relationships being so lacking
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