jobaba Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 ...get out and interact with people who have real life problems. Who can't pay the rent on time because of life circumstances and have children. Who have debilitating illnesses. Who have been abused and forced to quit school as youth, leading to limited literacy, upward mobility and ambition. I promise your self pity will go away real quick. I'm sure I'll be back on here whining soon, but for now I'm thankful I can sit in front of the computer and type about relatively trivial matters. And I'm thankful I know such people that bring me down to Earth. 2
SJC2008 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 That's a good way to put things in perspective but when you feel like you have been robbed of an important aspect of life, an so and sex, something that is normal and routine for 95+% of people, it really doesn't help much. 2
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 you can't snap people out of it in that way. While there is truth in your statement, when your very existence seems to have turned into a black depressing downward spiral of misery, it's very difficult to light the lamp of reason. Everyone has a level of sadness - and it's all relative. In order to be able to do what you recommend, there must be a large portion of your mind pre-trained and pre-programmed to consider life thus. Philosophy of this nature is all very well, but the time to instil it, is when life is buoyant, because to suggest it at a time when despondency is at its most insidious, is like throwing a drowning man a bag of bricks. 2
MrCastle Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I understand that you never have to look too far to find someone worse off than you. You pray for those people and hope their luck turns around, but at the same time, looking over and seeing someone who's struggling doesn't make your problems go away. There is no solace in someone else's misery. At least not for me. At the end of the day, their problems won't make yours go away. No matter how big or how small they might be. If you're struggling to find a date, and it pains you; seeing a guy who has a family to feed lose his job isn't going to make you say "wow, that guy has it worse, okay, I'll forget about dating" At the end of the day, you're still alone, and that's not going to change. 2
SmileFace Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 My dating life sucks and I still suffer real life problems. Guess we can't win.
Author jobaba Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Haha. You guys are right. I'm already back to thinking about how my dating life sucks. But it was nice to trivialize it if only for a bit.
Els Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I completely agree with this. Honestly, working with such people did me a world of good. It all depends on what you take out of the experience. Learning to count your blessings and to be happy (not necessarily content, but happy) with what you have is a skill that takes practice, and will serve you well in all aspects of life, whether or not you have a SO. So why not cultivate it now?
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