ahmedelsaka Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 hey guys, there is my ex girlfriend who i love a lot, her name is Natalie, and we broke up because she said that she didn't want to risk losing me and thought that if we were friends we wouldn't lose each other ever, and it turned out that she meant it, because she hooked up with this other guy, and she never changed from when we were together, and her new boyfriend got angry when he saw how she is with me, and he told her to stop talking to me, so she broke up with him, and then she told me how much i mean to her and how she never wants to lose me, i loved her even more, but then came another guy, called Jacob, he is a close friend of mine, she madly fell in love with him, and did so much with hooking up with him, and when they did, they started kissing and i hear that they started touching, i told her to stop (i know im selfish) but then he saw the message and got angry and she stopped talking to me in person and barely talks to me online, and i went crazy i kept on sending her messages about how he doesn't like her and stuff, and then, she started not feeling well about stuff and got depressed, and then they got on bad terms and in the end they broke up and then Jacob told me how he hates her and said that he enjoyed kissing and touching her, i told him to shut up, and after that, she was acting weird, barely talking to me and ****, and then she started talking another dude, she got really hung up with him, but she keeps saying that there is nothing between them, and then by time, we got close again, but she was still getting waay too close and they started giving each other nicknames, and in the end one day, she wasnt replying to me on facebook, yet she posted something to him saying how he was her prince and stuff, and i got angry, i told her, "sorry, i didnt know you were busy with your prince, bye" but, i made it sound a little sarcastic, and then i went out with my friends and we stayed out all nigh playing pool, and then the next day, i wake up and she wrote me a song ( she writes songs and plays guitar in her free time as a hobby ) and she said in the end "you are the closest one to me, no prince can ever replace you ;)" i got happy, and replied, we were on great terms, and even once that new friend of hers was flirting with her on her wall, i got a little jealous, i asked, are you 2 together? and she said that she wasnt and doesent want to be with anyone other than me, i want to ask her so we can go back together, but what about jacob? he still is my friend, ans also, im not comfortable about her new guy friend, what should i do to get back, without any problems with jacob?
Jamesblame Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Well I think you could use a bit of alpha training in your love life. Go fight for the girls you want, otherwise you're friended like with Natalie. She sees you as her close friend. It's imperative that you treat her like you you want to treat her. Why be her friend when you want to love her? Fight and protect her, take her out, make her feel special. Regarding your friend. Tell him point blank that you've always cared about her and that you want her. Its nothing personal but you stood on the side while he got to be with her, and you hope he can do the same for you. Overall, I'd suggest to man up and start dating other girls. I heard a lot about the men Natalie went with without hearing a lot of the girls you went with. Protect yourself by standing up to yourself. Really... maybe don't date her. She knew how you felt and still went with other guys. She has an emotional affair with you, while dating other guys, and frankly probably sees you as slightly spineless. Maybe not spineless, but with a hard cartilage. In fact. I'll change my opinion again, and suggest you just really work on yourself and your confidence!
Jamesblame Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I didn't mean to come off cruel. If I did I apologize. I think that all too often we think that the affection we feel for someone is reserved for just that person. And it isn't. You're a dedicated, loving person. And lots of girls are looking for that. There's no need to "waste" your time on someone who can't see that. Moving on to give your love and affection to another person is the secret to maturing as a person.
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