StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 What occupations that a guy has interest you when first meeting them? What occupations disinterest you when first meeting them? You do have inclinations for like/dislike to both questions. No judgement folks, just honest with yourself answers. None are wrong. Feel free to say more than one. (And I didn't start this thread for a gender role or any other argument.)
dreamingoftigers Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Dammit. I thought that this was a thread asking about what occupations WE were interested in. I got my hopes up because I am trying to pursue some cool stuff. Damn. In men. I dunno. Trades are neat. My Dad was a tradesman, sort of a jack of all trades. I'm excited to be trying to go and take a basic trades certification in the spring although I won't be using that towards my chosen career. Dammit, me again. Um, I've met a lot of engineers, they seem like a bright, problem-solving bunch. Hmm. Grandpa was an engineer, so there is that. I'd be scared with a cop. A high percentage of them seem like control-power freaks. But then again I've met some super-balanced ones too. Not my prime choice. Not military either. Enh. Not truck-driving because I'd miss a guy if I got attached. Um, pilot? Pilots have a neat job. Lawyer! That'd be a cool job, you'd get some great stories. Teacher. I like it when guys like kids. My husband worked as a custodian inns small all-grades school. That was when he decided for sure that he wanted kids. He would find half-sandwiches with a bite taken out of them and it would make him kind of smile to himself. If the guy was a writer, that would also be very awesome. Do people really, really care that much?
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 What matters to me is that a man is engaged with what he spends +/- 40 hours a week doing. But I am much more interested in getting my own occupation squared away than what a guy is doing. Isn't that up to him??
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Dammit. I thought that this was a thread asking about what occupations WE were interested in. I got my hopes up because I am trying to pursue some cool stuff. Damn. In men. I dunno. Trades are neat. My Dad was a tradesman, sort of a jack of all trades. I'm excited to be trying to go and take a basic trades certification in the spring although I won't be using that towards my chosen career. Dammit, me again. Um, I've met a lot of engineers, they seem like a bright, problem-solving bunch. Hmm. Grandpa was an engineer, so there is that. I'd be scared with a cop. A high percentage of them seem like control-power freaks. But then again I've met some super-balanced ones too. Not my prime choice. Not military either. Enh. Not truck-driving because I'd miss a guy if I got attached. Um, pilot? Pilots have a neat job. Lawyer! That'd be a cool job, you'd get some great stories. Teacher. I like it when guys like kids. My husband worked as a custodian inns small all-grades school. That was when he decided for sure that he wanted kids. He would find half-sandwiches with a bite taken out of them and it would make him kind of smile to himself. If the guy was a writer, that would also be very awesome. Do people really, really care that much? Well, as you know, you could ask that question of most anything. "Do people really, really care that much?? The percentages will vary for each individual. But to answer your question, people always care and give it weighted importance. Thanks for answering my question.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I went out with a butcher once. I wasn't against his occupation, but the smell of dried blood on him when he'd meet me after work was kind of a turn off.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 When we were wild youths, my ex-husband used to MC at a strip club on Broadway in San Francisco. I'm not sure I liked it … but it was interesting, for sure.
dreamingoftigers Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 It all depends, right? If you're a lawyer that's only pulling in 50k/yr then forget about it. Enh, so he's not at the top of his game, it's not like he has to live off if KD and Ichiban.
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 What matters to me is that a man is engaged with what he spends +/- 40 hours a week doing. But I am much more interested in getting my own occupation squared away than what a guy is doing. Isn't that up to him?? Respectfully, you kind of dodged the questions. You do give weight & importance to these things when getting to know a person. There is no wrong answer to the questions. Example: "A grocery store clerk piques my interest and makes me want to know more, whereas a pilot does not..." Or vice-versa.
xxoo Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 If he's passionate about it--whatever it is--that's attractive. Self-employment is attractive. 3
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 When we were wild youths, my ex-husband used to MC at a strip club on Broadway in San Francisco. I'm not sure I liked it … but it was interesting, for sure. Interesting answer. Thanks.
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 If he's passionate about it--whatever it is--that's attractive. Self-employment is attractive. Kind of vague. A person could be passionate about being: A butcher An artist A physician etc. However, all of these things will not equally intrigue you. And they're not supposed too! You're an individual with different experiences and interests yourself. So, you're just meeting a few guys at a backyard BBQ. They all have comparable looks, mannerisms, conversational skills. What occupations would they have that interest you more? And what occupations would they have that interest you less?
Easyguy14 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Dammit. I thought that this was a thread asking about what occupations WE were interested in. I got my hopes up because I am trying to pursue some cool stuff. Damn. In men. I dunno. Trades are neat. My Dad was a tradesman, sort of a jack of all trades. I'm excited to be trying to go and take a basic trades certification in the spring although I won't be using that towards my chosen career. Dammit, me again. Um, I've met a lot of engineers, they seem like a bright, problem-solving bunch. Hmm. Grandpa was an engineer, so there is that. I'd be scared with a cop. A high percentage of them seem like control-power freaks. But then again I've met some super-balanced ones too. Not my prime choice. Not military either. Enh. Not truck-driving because I'd miss a guy if I got attached. Um, pilot? Pilots have a neat job. Lawyer! That'd be a cool job, you'd get some great stories. Teacher. I like it when guys like kids. My husband worked as a custodian inns small all-grades school. That was when he decided for sure that he wanted kids. He would find half-sandwiches with a bite taken out of them and it would make him kind of smile to himself. If the guy was a writer, that would also be very awesome. Do people really, really care that much? you make good choices. I wonder what you think of undertakers like me. I usually do well picking up women in bars mostly so I'm not sure what to make of that outside it.
Wonder1 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 His occupation would not concern me, if we get on have similar interests and he is an all around good guy that is what counts. I earn my own money and have my own home would hate a guy I liked to judge me on my occupation. Seems quite shallow.
Janesays Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 The one I have. In men? It never occurred to me to care. Unless he did what I did...then id talk some shop with him! 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 However, all of these things will not equally intrigue you. And they're not supposed too! You're an individual with different experiences and interests yourself. So, you're just meeting a few guys at a backyard BBQ. They all have comparable looks, mannerisms, conversational skills. What occupations would they have that interest you more? And what occupations would they have that interest you less? Being interested in a person's occupation has NOTHING to do with whether I am interested in them as a potential romantic interest. When I meet a new person and I find out they have a job that piques my interest, I'm all over finding out whatever I can about it. It makes no difference to me whether the person is a man or a woman or whether I am single or married. I just spent some time with a woman whose family business is to contract with cardiologists who monitor ECG's that are transmitted to her office from very remote rural locations. They are sent to the person's family doctor with the notes from the specialist. Many lives are prolonged and saved. It's also a very successful business financially. I was fascinated and talked with her for a long time about this business and how it got started, etc. I didn't want to date her over it, though! My husband is a truck driver. I am not interested in that job, per se, though I am interested in how he gets through all the challenges of his days and the very funny and engaging way he talks to me about it. His work ethic is over the top, and THAT is interesting and attractive to me.
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 The one I have. In men? It never occurred to me to care. Unless he did what I did...then id talk some shop with him! I do not believe you. This would mean that you meet someone, they make zero statements or give any information about their occupation-regardless of how long you get to know them....and you would not care. Just not true.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I do not believe you. This would mean that you meet someone, they make zero statements or give any information about their occupation-regardless of how long you get to know them....and you would not care. Just not true. Well, I'm the same way. It's true. I DO care about how a person FEELS about what job they do. I'm certainly interested in hearing about what they do all day long. If they don't talk about that, there would be some pretty big holes in the convo. That doesn't mean that I'd be more interested in a person with some kind of a job over some other kind. My father was a doctor - I hear (around here) that women all want to marry doctors because they rake in the dough. I could not care less. If I were really interested in medicine - I would be a doctor myself, not try to date one.
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 His occupation would not concern me, if we get on have similar interests and he is an all around good guy that is what counts. I earn my own money and have my own home would hate a guy I liked to judge me on my occupation. Seems quite shallow. So, based on your criteria, you would be completely happy with a significant other that made minimum wages washing dishes as a career?
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 So, based on your criteria, you would be completely happy with a significant other that made minimum wages washing dishes as a career? Being intrigued by a person's occupation and concerned with how much money they earn are not the same thing ...
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Well, I'm the same way. It's true. I DO care about how a person FEELS about what job they do. I'm certainly interested in hearing about what they do all day long. If they don't talk about that, there would be some pretty big holes in the convo. That doesn't mean that I'd be more interested in a person with some kind of a job over some other kind. My father was a doctor - I hear (around here) that women all want to marry doctors because they rake in the dough. I could not care less. If I were really interested in medicine - I would be a doctor myself, not try to date one. While I can appreciate how you appreciate all occupations, what you say is simply never true for anyone. And care does not equal "interest". I can care about a truck driver, doctor, nurse, butcher, etc. equally. But no-one, in general, has equal interest in them. Yours and others' responses, while noble, screams of PC and not wanting to be viewed as the bad guy. When there is no wrong occupation to recognize more. If you find things more interesting like truck drivers, doctors & carpenters vs. lawyers, artists, & landscapers-that's more probable and perfectly fine.
Janesays Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I do not believe you. This would mean that you meet someone, they make zero statements or give any information about their occupation-regardless of how long you get to know them....and you would not care. Just not true. Ha! For the longest time, I thought my boyfriend worked in a factory making bottles. We were together for months before I realized he didn't actually make bottles, but instead worked at the home office....as an engineer. I have my own money, so his occupation is irrelevant to me.
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Being intrigued by a person's occupation and concerned with how much money they earn are not the same thing ... To not associate the two is an argument with so little foundation it is laughable to say or give recognition.
2sure Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 It changes, but I do gravitate to men that have particular occupations. I always have, depending on my own interests at the time. When I liked motorcycles I dated mechanics. When I was adventurous I dated pilots. Forget the engineers for me. Not attorneys either, although that was a short phase. Ive actually recently discovered that judges are hilarious , so that occupation is drawing me a bit right now. I'm over 45 so clearly my interests have changed.
Kofybean Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 ... Yours and others' responses, while noble, screams of PC and not wanting to be viewed as the bad guy... Yea. I notice, no one is answering your question... just dancing around the subject. I like occupations that put people on television. It's interesting to get their take on the behind the scenes parts. 1
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Ha! For the longest time, I thought my boyfriend worked in a factory making bottles. We were together for months before I realized he didn't actually make bottles, but instead worked at the home office....as an engineer. I have my own money, so his occupation is irrelevant to me. Odd. Thanks. So far, two people have wanted to make it clear..."I make my own money." Great! Hope you make tons and are completely satisfied with what you do for it! Now back to the original question: What occupations would one have that interests you more? What occupations would one have that interest you less?
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