Jaf15 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I have written multiple posts on my situation, to sum it up I am 3 months out of a 3 yr relationship. I am 20 years old, I was dumped by my ex. She was my first everything. The past month or so, I have felt a little better, I was talking to this girl I met and hung out a few times, I am no longer in contact with her anymore though, we just didn't seem to click that well, and she was kind of physco at times lol Although I know I am not fully over my ex yet obviously, I have came to the conclusion that the reason this has been so hard on me is because I lost my independence during my ex relationship. It doesn't feel right to be a lone or not have that special someone in my life that I am talking too. I know this is a big problem, and that I should not feel the need to be accepted or validated by anyone else. That I need to be happy with girls in general or without someone special in my life. I am just venting, anyone been in a similar situation or have any thoughts? Thanks
Svet74 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I think my ex has your personality. Just him know that he is still wanted by all his exes. Even though he is the one who gets a hold of them first, then leads them on to a point where they think oh maybe this can work out. Once he gets that validation. He keeps moving on. Until the ex realizes oh now she is movin on again. I know this is off topic a bit but that was my ex 1
Author Jaf15 Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 I dont lead people on though or try to get back people when they are trying to move on haha I was saying that I need to be happy when I am alone, or not feel the need for a special girl(everyone I know has that special person i know besides me) My ex has probably moved on, and I have respected that and have no tried to contact her since the day after we broke up
Floored Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Three and half years with my ex, first everything, happy to have someone to share anything and everything with, happy to be half of one whole. The weirdest part initially was not texting every ten minutes, and planning out my days and weeks with someone else. I suppose there isn't much to do to fix that mindset but be alone for a while.
Author Jaf15 Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 yeah I feel as if being alone a while longer is the only fix. I am not using it as an excuse to not chase girls or stay a depressant over the ex, but I need to not be reliant on anyone but myself
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