sal110104 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I have been seeing this guy for a few months. I am still not 100% sure about this "realtionship" He says all the right things but some times his actions dont match. He has flaked out on me once (seemingly a legitimate excuse) - apologized profusely so I decided to give it another go. Now he has some drama going on in his life - a very good friend of his is hospitalized - touch & go with whether or not she will make it. Last time we talked though it seemed she was pulling out of it. Communication these last 2 weeks has been sporadic at best which I completely understand. I have tried to back off and give him his space but I feel like I could get a little more communication on his part. We had plans tonight - but he blew me off again using the hospital as an excuse. I want to be understanding but at the same time - come on - you cant get away for a couple of hours?? I want to say something but not sure how to say something without coming off as insensitive - or should I just not say anything because I am being selfish wanting to see him??
Emilia Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Communication these last 2 weeks has been sporadic at best which I completely understand. I have tried to back off and give him his space but I feel like I could get a little more communication on his part. We had plans tonight - but he blew me off again using the hospital as an excuse. I want to be understanding but at the same time - come on - you cant get away for a couple of hours?? I want to say something but not sure how to say something without coming off as insensitive - or should I just not say anything because I am being selfish wanting to see him?? Hmm I think it's too much on his part. Personally, I wouldn't say anything but would wait for him to initiate. If it didn't happen soon enough, I'd allow it to fizzle out completely.
Trimmer Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 We had plans tonight - but he blew me off again using the hospital as an excuse. I want to be understanding but at the same time - come on - you cant get away for a couple of hours?? I want to say something but not sure how to say something without coming off as insensitive - or should I just not say anything because I am being selfish wanting to see him?? I'd like to help you refine your thought process a little. You say you don't know how to say "it", but setting aside the question of how you say it, can I ask what you would like to say? What point would you like to make with him? What would you like him to change, as a result of "saying something"?
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