health Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Any advice? The outcome I'm looking for is to have a healthy relationship. I asked this girl out yesterday to hang out today - she said yes. I asked if everything is cool for tonight, and she didn't reply. It's pretty much "tonight" now. I got over a 5 year + relationship that I thought was perfect - that ended almost 4 years ago. Since then, I've been with 3 other girls, just flings. I really liked one earlier this year - I thought I saw all the signs - mustered the courage to ask and she said she just got a boyfriend. It's tough, cause I thought I had it all and I feel like my world is falling apart. A contract job I had ended and it's been very hard to find new work as well. I moved back home where my sister and Mom are verbally abusive. I just want 1. A job 2. Move out 3. A girl I keep trying and getting nowhere. It's on me and my responsibility. I will keep trying I guess. It's just that I can't stand getting rejected anymore in the state I'm in. I think I should stop chasing after girls for now.
It's Just Me Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Get your home/job life in order. Once you're happy, you will be in a position to consider your emotional health when it comes to dating. Good luck!
Chunky Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I usually meet a girl when I stop looking for one. Concentrate on getting a job and then another place to live first. Give it to God and in His time you'll meet the right one.
Author health Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Thank you everyone, I appreciate that.
ja123 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Yes, I agree. Get your job and own place first. Stay away from the verbal abuse, leave the room, and don't engage. Use your cell phone on your reume and job applications. Just concentrate on you and loving you. The girl will happen, eventually. Hang in there!
Author health Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 ja123 - Thank you so much! Yeah I just want a full time job again and my own apartment. I quit drinking, smoking etc etc. It's just crazy cause I thought I had it all - I had what I thought was the most beautiful girl for 5 years, my own apt, work saved money every month etc. The relationship fell apart - she rebounded which hurt me alot etc etc. I'm 30 years old and moved back at 27. I just get bothered by people saying everyone should move out by 30 - hell I agree - but have the people saying that are not even truely independent! They share rooms and rent with significant others etc - I was 100% independent. I will be again - I actually am now - I have unemployment. It's just hard living at home. My sister was an agorphobic - once she told me she hoped I dont get a job the day of an interview cause we argued - that hurt me so bad - I forgave her but I avoid her as the plauge in our apartment for 2 years now - it's very tense at home. It's like I want to escape by getting a girlfriend - when I finally get the courage to ask they reject me or like tonight - simply dont reply back. The other thing is Its like Im chasing the same type of girl Young - 22 - unemploed, uneducated, smoker which is horrible. I want an educated girl who is also independent. Is that too to ask? haha I just strongly feel both parties should be 100% self sufficient - Ive read of the importance and heck - I've seen the results when one leaves - not good! Thank you again, I WILL sort this out and will prioritize work and apt first! I went for a walk and feel much much better and empowered. Thanks again guys!
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