Cracker Jack Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 It's called getting to know them, one goal. That's why you meet and talk to people. In this instance, it'd be women.
ascendotum Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 You just can't ask them out the first class when you don't even know them for 30 minutes. Build a little rapport first. After a few conversations over the first few weeks, when you think you have bit of a connection going with the girl and find out what her interests are outside of school, and if you can get a vibe as to whether she likes you at all (that's assuming a hottie is not already taken), then ask her to do something together after class or on the weekend. If you are worried about it being 'awkward' then just act like it was no big deal if she comes up with a lame excuse for not spending time with you, and then focus on another girl.
thehead Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 and if the person says "no," believe her and do not try a second time, ever. It's good advice to follow One Goal. it's all or nothing with you. When she gives you nothing believe it and move along.
Author one goal Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Build a little rapport first. After a few conversations over the first few weeks, when you think you have bit of a connection going with the girl and find out what her interests are outside of school, and if you can get a vibe as to whether she likes you at all (that's assuming a hottie is not already taken), then ask her to do something together after class or on the weekend. If you are worried about it being 'awkward' then just act like it was no big deal if she comes up with a lame excuse for not spending time with you, and then focus on another girl. What happens if it's a class at the end of the day, or before my next class which only has 10 mins in between?
utterer of lies Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I mean I can't just walk up to them cause I think they're cute and ask for their number if I don't know them. That's creepy and would make everyone at school think Im a creep. Yes, you can do this - just ask them out politely, and accept it if they reject. Don't ask for reasons or whatever, just say "ok, too bad." and leave them alone. And: No, it's much less creepy than asking them out after weeks of staring at them at uni and FB-stalking them.
counterman Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Every single post here is offering you great advice, one goal. Stop coming up with every single hypothetical situation and asking for solutions to them because there is no fool-proof way of getting with any girl. Just to sum up what others were saying: 1) If you see a girl you're interested in, say, in class, then get to know her for a bit first, find out what her interests are, and ask her to hang out with you; 2) If a girl says she's not interested, move on. Do not dwell on it and do not keep trying harder; 3) Do not stalk girls on Facebook, send them friend request and do not get a girl's number through group project and make a move there; 4) Do not spend a semester, staring at a girl and thinking 'damn, she's hot - I can't get her'; 5) If you see a girl you're interested in, approach her and say 'hi' - you have to make opportunities and not wait for one to present itself.; 6) Focus on school, also. It's important; 7) Yes, you can approach a girl you find cute and yes you can ask them out - don't just walk up to her and ask for her number right away, don't walk up to her and just say hi and stare at her. How would you normally talk to a friend or maybe a friend of a friend? The more people you talk to, the better you'll get 8) Be polite, and if you get rejected, accept it graciously (smile, say 'ok' and talk to other girls) - there will be girls who will think you're creepy just for saying hi, but as long as you're not rude, obsessive, stalker-like, then it's ok 4
stillafool Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 When you see a girl you like try to get eye contact and smile at her with a closed mouth, look away first and keep walking. That will peak her interest. The next time you see her do it again and if she's smiling back approach her slowly and calmly. Ask her name, tell her yours and proceed from there.
oaks Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 You just can't ask them out the first class when you don't even know them for 30 minutes. Maybe not first class... but don't leave it until the end of semester (or even later). Also, which part about not coming here with excuses didn't you understand?
oaks Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 What happens if it's a class at the end of the day, You finish with "Are you doing anything right now? Let's go for a drink!" or before my next class which only has 10 mins in between? You finish with "Are you doing anything after class? Let's go for a drink!"
oaks Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Well I wanna bone them too! Good for you! So, that's your incentive to act in a way that maximises your chances of getting a date. There's some great advice in this thread; please don't dismiss it with ridiculous excuses that sound like "I can't."
Author one goal Posted July 28, 2012 Author Posted July 28, 2012 Like I said think Nina Dobrev for an example looks wise what I want in a girl. I mean that is the hotness level.
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Like I said think Nina Dobrev for an example looks wise what I want in a girl. Now if only the universe cared for what you want...
Trimmer Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Like I said think Nina Dobrev for an example looks wise what I want in a girl. I mean that is the hotness level. Ah, demonstrating your usual keen self-awareness and sure-handed grip on reality, I see. It's not funny:( Damn right, it's not...
Author one goal Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Ah, demonstrating your usual keen self-awareness and sure-handed grip on reality, I see. Damn right, it's not... Why do u think that's not realistic getting a girl as hot as her?
madjac74 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 You are starting to sound like a stalker for this canadian model. There are plenty of beautiful women and the fact that you have narrowed your expectations to being "as hot as Nina Dobrev" just makes you look a bit sad. You could simply say I want a hot chick and people might take you more serious. Either way I think you lack the confidence and maturity to attain your goal. You should just rely on what most young people rely on...getting them really drunk
Trimmer Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 (edited) Why do u think that's not realistic getting a girl as hot as her? I would factor in your history, your experiences, and your own level of attractiveness, and expect that it's most likely that the women who are attracted to you in the future will be more-or-less in the same range as the women who have been attracted to you in the past. How would you describe the women who have been attracted to you over the past few years? Put another way: why do you think that it IS realistic, "getting" a girl as hot as her? Edited July 29, 2012 by Trimmer
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