davidqvu90 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 I recently met a girl and she is one of the most stand off'ish girl I know but yet she has close to 1k friends on facebook. It seems like popularity and friendliness have no correlation. I have always believe that a person's popularity is proportional to how friendly and welcoming he/she is. I see myself as a friendly and welcoming person but yet I have only 50 or so friends on facebook. Btw, i'm not trying to get my friends on facebook. I'm simply trying to understand how society works. If popularity does not correlate with friendliness, then what does it correlates to? I will admit that I'm somewhat of a social retard and thus I'm here to learn .
The Outlaw Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I think it's more who you are and what you know when it comes down to it. Being friendly seems to be less relevant especially in FB's case these days. I've always seen it as the ultimate popularity contest.
WordvAction Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Facebook has absolutely NO measure has to how popular a person is. I'm guessing your either very young or in your mid 30's? There are many factors that contribute to popularity; just focus on being yourself, making connection with people who have similar interests, and most of all, being outgoing
Cealabeala Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 There are several different types of people on Facebook. There are the very friendly people who are involved in lots of different activities and who get out and do a lot and therefore meet a lot of people. They will have a lot of Facebook friends. Then there are "cool people" who are in with an "It crowd". The coolest people in this group will be added by everyone else so that they can see what they are doing and try to do the same sh*t. For the less cool members, one of the expectations of this "it crowd" is having a lot of Facebook friends, so these people will add a lot of people for this reason. Normal people will also add them in order to look "cool" for being friends with them. This results in many Facebook friends. There are also people who are so desperate to look like they belong in said It crowd that they will frantically add sh*t loads of people they barely know out of fear of looking like a loser. They have low self esteem and many Facebook friends. Then there are very attractive people, usually a subset of the It group but sometimes not. They will have more Facebook friends of the opposite sex than average. The kinds of people who don't have as many Facebook friends are usually the people who don't care about what others think about them, or those on the social margins of society. Anyway, unless you went through someone's friends with them, asking how close they are to each person, you have no idea how someones Facebook friends correlate to their popularity.
shayla Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I have somewhere around 200 FB friends, I know maybe 75 if those people (family, friends, coworkers). I play Sims Social, and I made friends with people that also play. Having lots of friends is necessary because you need to get and send things to one another in order to play. I don't think that the number of FB friends is an indication of popularity.
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 (edited) For interest. News Technology Facebook Facebook's 'dark side': study finds link to socially aggressive narcissism Psychology paper finds Facebook and other social media offer platform for obsessions with self-image and shallow friendships Share 30096 Email Damien Pearse guardian.co.uk, Saturday 17 March 2012 09.41 EDT Jump to comments (…) Too many 'friends'? A psychology paper has found a link between Facebook and other social media and socially disruptive narcissism. Photograph: Justin Sullivan/Getty Images Researchers have established a direct link between the number of friends you have on Facebook and the degree to which you are a "socially disruptive" narcissist, confirming the conclusions of many social media sceptics. People who score highly on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory questionnaire had more friends on Facebook, tagged themselves more often and updated their newsfeeds more regularly. The research comes amid increasing evidence that young people are becoming increasingly narcissistic, and obsessed with self-image and shallow friendships. The latest study, published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, also found that narcissists responded more aggressively to derogatory comments made about them on the social networking site's public walls and changed their profile pictures more often. A number of previous studies have linked narcissism with Facebook use, but this is some of the first evidence of a direct relationship between Facebook friends and the most "toxic" elements of narcissistic personality disorder. Researchers at Western Illinois University studied the Facebook habits of 294 students, aged between 18 and 65, and measured two "socially disruptive" elements of narcissism – grandiose exhibitionism (GE) and entitlement/exploitativeness (EE). GE includes ''self-absorption, vanity, superiority, and exhibitionistic tendencies" and people who score high on this aspect of narcissism need to be constantly at the centre of attention. They often say shocking things and inappropriately self-disclose because they cannot stand to be ignored or waste a chance of self-promotion. The EE aspect includes "a sense of deserving respect and a willingness to manipulate and take advantage of others". The research revealed that the higher someone scored on aspects of GE, the greater the number of friends they had on Facebook, with some amassing more than 800. Those scoring highly on EE and GG were also more likely to accept friend requests from strangers and seek social support, but less likely to provide it, according to the research. Carol Craig, a social scientist and chief executive of the Centre for Confidence and Well-being, said young people in Britain were becoming increasingly narcissistic and Facebook provided a platform for the disorder. "The way that children are being educated is focussing more and more on the importance of self esteem – on how you are seen in the eyes of others. This method of teaching has been imported from the US and is 'all about me'. "Facebook provides a platform for people to self-promote by changing profile pictures and showing how many hundreds of friends you have. I know of some who have more than 1,000." Dr Viv Vignoles, senior lecturer in social psychology at Sussex University, said there was "clear evidence" from studies in America that college students were becoming increasingly narcissistic. But he added: "Whether the same is true of non-college students or of young people in other countries, such as the UK, remains an open question, as far as I know. "Without understanding the causes underlying the historical change in US college students, we do not know whether these causes are factors that are relatively specific to American culture, such as the political focus on increasing self-esteem in the late 80s and early 90s or whether they are factors that are more general, for example new technologies such as mobile phones and Facebook." Vignoles said the correlational nature of the latest study meant it was difficult to be certain whether individual differences in narcissism led to certain patterns of Facebook behaviour, whether patterns of Facebook behaviour led to individual differences in narcissism, or a bit of both. Christopher Carpenter, who ran the study, said: "In general, the 'dark side' of Facebook requires more research in order to better understand Facebook's socially beneficial and harmful aspects in order to enhance the former and curtail the latter. "If Facebook is to be a place where people go to repair their damaged ego and seek social support, it is vitally important to discover the potentially negative communication one might find on Facebook and the kinds of people likely to engage in them. Ideally, people will engage in pro-social Facebooking rather than anti-social me-booking." Edited August 5, 2012 by StrangeBehaviors
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