my ex left me and is already with someone else and she contacted me after 5 weeks

[mr.wavy]

Been together with my ex for 3 years. we were going to get engaged and everything. She left me may 2nd due to be being clingy, then the whole month of may she gave me extreme mixed signals, like trying to kiss me, hug me next minute hate me then love me again, EXTREME mixed signals.

 

she remained in contact through out may, she began chasing me again for 2 weeks towards the end of may. Eventually she asked me out again saying she regrets giving me mixed signals and that it was all an act and that she still loves me, i agreed to get back together.

 

She was all over me, but the problem was i began acting a little clingy again as i was goin through a really rough time at home. she vaguely left me 7 days later on 7th june and said she was confused. This is the point i went no contact. On the 14th she casually contacted me. i had to cut the conversation short as i had to go. She missed called me again a few hours later. But i didnt call her back. As a result the next day she uploaded the quote 'are you doing well without me' on her blog. july 14th was the last time we talked. i remained in no contact.

 

ever since july 14 ive heard that shes been talking to another guy who allot, (all of the times she would spend talking to me, she was now talking to this guy, she never use to before the break up) they even have gone out, so basicly shes seeing someone already after her 3 year long relationship with me (smells like a rebound). Also as time passed when her friends would queation her about me she would say negative and hateful comments when the breakup wasnt even bad and i did nothing to cause such spiteful comments. she also deleted me of social networking sites even though she knows i hardly use them. she also changed her passwords lol. Also it was her birthday in the 5 weeks that have passed since our conversation on june 14th, so i wished her happy birthday through a friend, as her mum bought her a new mobile contract for her birtihday so i didnt know her number.. i could ask her friends for it but i didnt, i could ask her mum or aunties for it because they love me and would give it, but i didnt)

 

Anyways its 25th july its been roughly just over 5 weeks of no contact and not talking to each other and she contacted me 4 days ago, she asked her friend for my number, she then called me right away on private number, and when i picked up i first asked who it was as i didnt recognise (i was outside and it was noisy), she then said her name and i asked whats up? she said she called becauae she needed help sorting out her little cousins console. so that he could play games. crap reason to call. Im suprised she even remembered i fixed it last time which was like a year ago. I told her i was at work and that she should google the problem as it would be easier and that i really didnt know how to fix the problem as i wasnt at home and then i cut it short and disconnected. She called again 10 minutes later asking when id get home and i said in the evening and then she was like ohh okay well bye and we both diaconnected. What i dont understand is that she could have called anyone of her other friends for help, why me? Just because i did it last time. She could have also googled the issue.

 

She didnt call in the evening or ever since, and all im hearing is how her and this guy are talking to each other all the time and so on. I miss her allot, and i do want her back, yes ive thought it through and ive gone over the relationship and i have seen that the good aspects of the relationship outweigh the bad. The 3 years have been the best of my life. Ive been in no contact for 5 weeks roughly and ive only been contacted twice and once for a crap reason. I use to update my blog regularely and i know she would check it from time to time, as id write all the good stuff goin on in my life on my blog (ive been trying to act as though im fine without her) but now ive just stopped updating my blog, so that i can dissapear and shed no longer know whats goin on in my life. Do i break no contact, get her number and call her, Any advice on how i could get her back from this other guy, i feel as though shes totally forgetten me and the 3 long years together and its only been 5 weeks

[steveblack]

yeah some mix signals to say the least. I think the best action is to tell her what YOU WANT and not to contact you unless its to talk about those things. The games she is playing are common. But if you know what is good for you, talk to her about what you want, and if she doesn't want to talk about it, dont talk to her about anything

[g450]

Yeah very common. Shis is throwing breadcrumbs and taking your tempreture. Just block her number. She is not your problem any more.

[JesseMartin]

Clinginess stems from insecurity.

 

Insecurity is rooted in your personality.

 

If you want her back, you need to grow as a person to the point where you are no longer insecure and clingy in a relationship.

 

But I believe it is more likely that in doing so, you will outgrow her and see her immature behavior for what it is.

 

Also keep in mind that jealousy can make you OVERVALUE your past relationship.

[The_Face]

Is she really that good in bed?

 

C'mon.

 

She's laughing at you, maaan! Kick her like a bad habit!