stewwy Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 Well, heres the quick version. My gf and I decided to take a break. so I flew home for a couple of weeks. while I was home we talked and worked some things out and agreed to work more on us when I returned. when I got home there were used condoms in the trash. they were from a box that I purchased just days before I went home. I absolutely lost my mind. I grabbed my things and emailed her some of the nastiest things I have ever allowed through my head. she had plenty of time to explain and give me some explanation, but she didnt. After the smoke cleared a bit I became (and still am) very depressed. All I want is for this whole thing to go away and for her and I to be back in that magical place where we dreamed and romanced and loved. I am so confused. Could there be a reasonable explanation for the condoms? and if there is, after all the nastiness it inspired in me is there a possability for her to get past the things I said? any advice please......
capitald Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 1. cool off...if you deal with her angrily your relationship is done. 2. ask her politely about the condoms. 3. if she has a good explanation you have to trust her and let it go. 4. if she cheated on you get as much space from her as possible, and send a letter stating everything you feel, EVERYTHING, and never go back.
Author stewwy Posted July 10, 2004 Author Posted July 10, 2004 the thing is I provided ample time for her to explain and she didnt. thats when I got nasty, only through email, but it would have embarrassed a porn star. three days before I left we were talking about who would be there when we got married. I bought a ring etc. then this. I think I want so badly to be wrong. I think I reacted naturally, but I dont know.
capitald Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 sounds like you lost her, maybe she wasn't the right one, once you said those nasty words I think ( and I am saying I think not I know) that they sealed the deal. Lick your wounds, return the ring, get back on the horse, go slower next time.
Author stewwy Posted July 10, 2004 Author Posted July 10, 2004 your probably right. Another problem is we have all the same friends. I have emailed some wonderful lyrics and poetry that I have written and one of our friends who is very close to the both of us lets me know that she saves all the poetry stuff that I have sent in a special file. I know its true because the friend even quoted some of it. Should I take that as a sign of hope?
HoldOn Posted July 11, 2004 Posted July 11, 2004 Ok, um, Deranged Angel referred me to this thread.... Why would there be condoms in the trash unless you'd been having sex? Unless she has a roommate or lets her friends have sex in her room, then she's having sex.
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