Canadian731 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Basically I decided to make this post for all of those sad souls who are just going through a tough breakup. A little back story for ya So when I was 15 I dated a girl online for a year, we were surprisingly close to one another, that ended because of my own insecurities also it was too hard, for the past few years there had been a girl at my school I could tell liked me, I never thought we would end up dating. So me and the girl ended up breaking up, I was pretty sad, the girl who was pursuing me came into my life as a support, she would listen to me moan and groan, comforted me, about a week after the break up she ended up asking me to be her boyfriend, at that time she was really there for me so I accepted, we started dating, we were both 16 at the time so after about 2 months we started spending almost all of our spare time with one another. It ended up getting to the point where she alienated herself from the friends she had, and ended up with me doing the same with my friends to keep her happy. Throughout the time we dated in highschool I kept talking with girls online, even going so far as to build sort of a little relationship with them (this had to due with previous abandonment and sexual abuse, feeling the need of being wanted and loved) she never really knew much about this, we were never really the type to sit down and talk about our feelings and such. So we ended up dating all through highschool, I spent ALOT of time at her house and her family became mine. We ended up graduating together, she started going to college in a city near ours (a much bigger city) I could tell she was changing, but didn't lay much attention to it as I was happy she finally was making friends. I ended up working as I still wasn't sure what I wanted to do, fast forward about a year, I end up movin to the city she goes to school in for work, she keeps living at home and commuting to school. I ended up living with my dad so she would stay there a few days a week, things were really good, I was happy where I was and she seemed happy too. I ended up starting school march this year, she was finishing her school in april so we planned we were going to move in together (BAD BAD IDEA) we started fighting A LOT, basically stopped paying attention to one another for the 4 months we lived together, she started hanging out with a guy friend and I knew something was up eventhough I could never see her cheating on me, everytime I asked she denied it. So one day, she went to hangout with some other guy and I had enough, texted her and told her that we needed to talk when she gets home. So she gets home and I start telling her how her spending so much time alone with this guy makes me feel and I basically say I can't take it anymore, I then ask her if she ever cheated on me, she says yes and I knew that she had kissed that guy, so I blew up kicked her out, went through all the usual crying, yelling, wanting her back for the next three weeks I did a lot of stupid stuff, showed up at her work twice, I bought her flowers and other goodies and left them by her door (she is staying at a friends house) I was a complete mess. Since then I have been to counseling and realized, this was a learning experience, there is no use holding on to the past because it's somewhere we can never be again. I started to see my family more (whom I neglected once she was living with me) working out, reading books on how to have a loving relationship, overall just improving my life. At the time of the break up I would have given my first born child to make the pain go away, but now, I understand that it needed to happen for me to start to improve my life and realize who I am as an individual. I can honestly say that by this happening to me my life has improved greatly, and for those of you sitting in your house, sad and feeling alone waiting for your ex to come back to you. Why should you be waiting for them when they aren't waiting for you, go out and experience life to the fullest, because if there is any hope of even getting your ex back do you really think that they would want to be with you in the sad state you are in, become someone who is appealing for others to want to be in a relationship with you, anyways that's my story, I wish you the best with yours.
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