john7474 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Im going on 3 months of break up. I work for the same company as my ex and we know mutual people. For the first few months, it was a back and forth roller coaster from talking, fighting, and ignoring each other. I dont have to see her everyday and when i do, i just ignore her and she does the same. She was and is very cold and lacks any type of emotion towards our previos relationship. I had a breakdown about two weeks ago and have been ignoring her again since then. Its always awkward and she now brings out a side of me i dont like very much. How have some others that have been in this type of situation handled it?
sweetheart5381 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 If you can be polite and cordial do so... then your mutual friends won't feel uncomfortable. If you have to ignore to prevent an emotional overload then ignore. You know your own emotions best. I work with my ex, we broke up 6 months ago and he is acting like a basket-case right now (see my recent thread, he came back, there is some history there). He chooses to openly ignore me in front of co-workers that know of our history, making it glaringly clear that he is angry. I choose to brush it off, sit down at my usual table at lunch or smoke break, whether he is there or not. A word of advice, don't let your ex affect you at work if at all possible. Your job is important and emotions will eventually settle. Dont risk trouble at work. At least one of you will have to step up and "shrug it off", "stuff it" etc. Be the bigger person and let it go. It will settle, trust me.
Author john7474 Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Most of our co-workers know tgat we dated and now we are not. I was a bit sad and depressed when they saw me at times and tons of gossip. I tried to be cordial but at first, i was still treating her like my girlfriend but obviosly that wasnt gping to work. She has lacked any type of compassion or remorse . The last conversation we had, she pretty much said she did not care about me, my feelings or how i felt about her. Like i said, just cold. Now i just ignore her but give attention to other mutual coworkers. It does feel awkward but I dont know how else to handle it.
steveblack Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I am not totally in the same situation, we work for a very small sector that always interact. We have a bunch of mutual friends, but have not really included them in our breakup. I have been avoiding her and ignoring her at all costs. If I need to contact her regarding something, i send it to her colleague or have have someone from my company contact her. Yeah, I am not ready for that interaction at all, and it might put some of my coworkers/her coworkers in a awkward position, but i think they understand. (we are about a month of NC). I feel your pain though. I don't know what I would do if we worked in the same company. Stay strong
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