violet.xo Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we love each other a lot. We even decided to go to the same university together in September. I got a spot in residence, and unfortunately he didn't so he had to look for a place to live. He found house where he will be rooming with 3 other female students, making him the only male in the house. I haven't really spoken up about it yet because I don't know if I would be making a big deal. I trust him and I don't believe he would do anything, and as cliche as this sounds, I'm more worried about the girls. I don't know, the whole situation just makes me feel really uncomfortable. Also he chose the house because he knows one of the girls as a friend kind of, and it's just down the street from where all his guy friends are living. He says this is just a "place to live" and not to be worried. But should I be? Any advice would help... Thankyou!!
Eddie Edirol Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 If he starts acting distant towards you, only then should you be worried.
melodymatters Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 The fact that you two are obviously young, dated for half your HS years and are now starting a new adventure, ALL those things could be construed as "danger signs" for your relationship. Or not. It SO depends on the people involved. I think being around the opposite sex in situations in which it would be very easy to....fall into.. "romantic scenarios'" is dangerous for couples. " Suzy is drunk and wearing nothing but a wife beater when she stumbles into the kitchen while your BF, who is also buzzed from hanging out with his buddies down the street is making toast, and she makes a pass at him, and he's still a teenager who hasn't experienced much "strange" and....well....I personally would not be comfortable, but I don't want to freak you out, if you are both non drinking , Christians or something, and the above scenario could NEVER happen.
josation218 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we love each other a lot. We even decided to go to the same university together in September. I got a spot in residence, and unfortunately he didn't so he had to look for a place to live. He found house where he will be rooming with 3 other female students, making him the only male in the house. I haven't really spoken up about it yet because I don't know if I would be making a big deal. I trust him and I don't believe he would do anything, and as cliche as this sounds, I'm more worried about the girls. I don't know, the whole situation just makes me feel really uncomfortable. Also he chose the house because he knows one of the girls as a friend kind of, and it's just down the street from where all his guy friends are living. He says this is just a "place to live" and not to be worried. But should I be? Any advice would help... Thankyou!! Should you be worry hells yeahh!!!Any man that respects his woman and respects his relationship, wouldn't dare to try to do something like that.. Imagine you living in a house with 3 guys.. How would he feels? But is like they say relationships are built on trust and if you trust him, you have nothing to worry about... Just make sure he doesn't get drunk one of those night and accidentally falls on one of his roommate vagina, that would be a shame .
MrCastle Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) I swear, the universe is such a weird place. He's taken, but the opportunity to room with 3 girls falls in his lap. I bet they're all hot and all single too. A single person's luck is different. If that were me it would either be 3 dudes, or 2 dudes and a girl who could pass for a dude. As for your situation, I think "cautious" would be the word I'd use. Don't automatically assume the worst, but be cautious. Edited July 26, 2012 by MrCastle
veggirl Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Yes you should be worried. He couldn't find ANY guys to room with?
amantis Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Dont listen to them . If he likes you you dont have to worry . The guys using Love shack think that , living with girls = sex They wish to be in that situation lol until yesterday i had a girl living with me and 2 more guys , and nothing happen . I lived with 3 girls before and i kissed one of them but i was single and i didnt have sex with any of them . If i had a girlfriend , i wouldnt do nothing with the girls .
ASG Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 I live with 2 guys and nothing has ever or will ever happen! We're housemates, friends even, but nothing else! It shouldn't be a problem. People don't cheat just because they live with people of the opposite sex!
FitChick Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 It depends on how attractive they are. You should make a point of befriending all of them, even to the point of trying to fix them up with your boyfriend's friends. My friend's boyfriend lived with a woman in a shared apartment and there was never any hankypanky. Often these sorts of situations turn into brother and sister type relationships. Close but platonic if there is no sexual attraction. Don't forget that when you live with housemates they see you at your worst.
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