troubles123 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Note this is a first year anniversary of being together, not married yet. I'm 22 this year and my gf's 23 this year, 6 months older than me. We've went through a lot of arguments and disagreements and close break ups before eventually cooling everything down and things has been pretty smooth lately. 1. I realized my gf has constantly been talking about herself, her work, her colleagues whenever she's with me or on the phone with me. 95% of the conversation revolve around her. I love her a lot and sometimes we have some funny thoughts about how we'd live together in future etc. But is this getting out of hand...I'm not someone that will bow down to women without question, but I give in a lot.. Will bringing the topic up of how she constantly talks about herself make me look like some loser who yearns attention? Or is there anything I can do about it? 2. Sometimes she feels really stressed up at work and texts me things like "im breaking down here..feel like crying", obviously I pacify her with some supporting messages, and receive no sort of reciprocation..sometimes I feel like a fool constantly doing that..any thoughts to that? 3. Girls don't like guys who constantly gives in, and look like they are out of control, I'm sure most agree with that. But is there any time for a guy to show his weak spot and talks about how he wished to be treated? 4. Whenever I get angry, or pissed off. She usually ends up getting pissed off too (though it's her fault) and I eventually calm down and pacify her. Thinking of this I'm looking like a total retard and lost control of the whole situation. Only can blame myself on having the ability to cheer myself up a lot quicker than others, resulting in that... She doesn't cheer up easily on her own though. Need some thoughts to this. Wow realized i've written quite a bit, holding it back in myself for quite a while, hope to get some advice guys...thanks
Leopard Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 I'm like that with my boyfriend. It might not be for the same reasons as your girlfriend, but the reason I always talk about my situations is because a) Boyfriend is an introvert and never talks. If I don't do the talking, then we will have an entirely silent relationship. b) Boyfriend is boring, so I have to entertain the both of us by telling stories or talking about my life in some way. c) I say thinks like "I'm so frustrated right now" because if I don't, he won't have a clue anything is going on, and I need support in that moment. d) There's nothing else to do. As for the pissed off part, I always leave him alone. He needs time to cool off whenever he gets angry, which is very, very, VERY rarely because he is the most patient person in the world. We never argue either, so I can't give you advice on that.
veggirl Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 This sounds like a really terrible relationship. I've been with my BF for the same amount of time, just passed one year. We've never had "a lot" of arguments or disagreements or been close to breaking up. If we were, we wouldn't still be together. Why do you want to be with someone you fight with so much? Is that really how you want to spend the rest of your life? She sounds really selfish and you sound really insecure. Healthy, good relationships lift you up and make you feel good. This is not that...
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