kvb Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 So Tuesday night I had a second date with a girl I'm quite fond of. The date was great-- great conversation, lots of flirting/touching, etc. We went out for ice cream and then to a movie. During the movie, we held hands for an hour or so. She caressed my arm and played around. After a while, I went for a kiss and she denied me, stating "i'm not just gonna kiss you". I responded "really?" in a sarcastic tone. I know that was a mistake but I was embarrassed and caught off guard (and a little tipsy). A few minutes later she pulled my arm in closer and started cuddling. At the end of the night, I walked her back to her car and she gave clear signs of wanting to kiss. I went for it and after making out for about 5 seconds, she pulled back, stating that she just wanted a "pop" (goodnight kiss). I was really embarrassed thinking about how goofy I probably seemed going for a full-on make out session when she only intended an innocent kiss. We discussed a 3rd date when she gets back from vacation in a week. Late that night after getting home, I regretfully sent the following text: "I had a great time with you tonight. Sorry about earlier. I should have laid off the rum hah." Still no response after 24 hrs. Although I'm sure she's had a lot on her mind today (leaving the country tomorrow) and the text didn't necessarily warrant a response. My question is this-- are these two awkward kissing moments (and unreplied text) going to kill my momentum with her? Are they a sign of disinterest? I know that she's very old fashioned/reserved when it comes to seeing guys (I know her mom). How can I rebound if I got a 3rd date? Thanks for the advice!
Author kvb Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 Don't worry your cool. Haha thanks for the confidence boost. Anyone else care to chime in? I'd love some input/advice! Thanks!
FitChick Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 If she's leaving the country, why are you even worrying? Are you planning to have an LDR?
Author kvb Posted July 27, 2012 Author Posted July 27, 2012 If she's leaving the country, why are you even worrying? Are you planning to have an LDR? nah shes going on vacation
thatone Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 So Tuesday night I had a second date with a girl I'm quite fond of. The date was great-- great conversation, lots of flirting/touching, etc. We went out for ice cream and then to a movie. During the movie, we held hands for an hour or so. She caressed my arm and played around. After a while, I went for a kiss and she denied me, stating "i'm not just gonna kiss you". I responded "really?" in a sarcastic tone. I know that was a mistake but I was embarrassed and caught off guard (and a little tipsy). A few minutes later she pulled my arm in closer and started cuddling. At the end of the night, I walked her back to her car and she gave clear signs of wanting to kiss. I went for it and after making out for about 5 seconds, she pulled back, stating that she just wanted a "pop" (goodnight kiss). I was really embarrassed thinking about how goofy I probably seemed going for a full-on make out session when she only intended an innocent kiss. We discussed a 3rd date when she gets back from vacation in a week. Late that night after getting home, I regretfully sent the following text: "I had a great time with you tonight. Sorry about earlier. I should have laid off the rum hah." Still no response after 24 hrs. Although I'm sure she's had a lot on her mind today (leaving the country tomorrow) and the text didn't necessarily warrant a response. My question is this-- are these two awkward kissing moments (and unreplied text) going to kill my momentum with her? Are they a sign of disinterest? I know that she's very old fashioned/reserved when it comes to seeing guys (I know her mom). How can I rebound if I got a 3rd date? Thanks for the advice! your sarcastic tone was NOT a mistake. that's exactly what i would've said. she's the one pushing you away, you have nothing to explain. you should've not sent the apology. you should never apologize for escalating physical contact. if she shoots you down more than once you know she isn't interested, move on to the next one. the mistake you're making has nothing to do with anything you did, the mistake you're making is getting attached to a girl you have no rapport with yet. btw there is never any back-tracking either, that's another thing you need to know. as soon as you see her next time you need to go in for another kiss. that's on the table, you don't go back to no kissing. advance, never retreat.
danm Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 she let u kiss her after the first hiccup. ur safe! 3rd date discussed? ur deffo safe on paper. shame about the holiday, but you played it well laughing it off with the sarcasm. keep us posted, and occupy urself til she returns. you cant teleport her back, so why worry til then?
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