BeachBoy1 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Hey all, So this may come off as a little bizarre. My ex and I broke up 10 months ago, last saw each other 1 year ago. We were together for 4.5 years and we were doing a lot of long distance in the final two years of the relationship. This was a big love, and it started when she was 20... and there's a significant age gap. The breakup was more her than me, but still somewhat mutual. I'm all good and I've been with other girls since, but I do love her. A lot. She has possibly been with other people since, but if I were a betting man I'd bet that she hasn't. I saw her for the first time in a year yesterday. We didn't plan it this way, but it worked out that I would be nearby and she was anxious to see me... so we made plans to spend some time together. I didn't know what to expect, but immediately it was apparent that she was expecting some form of physical contact. I obliged. Whenever I've kissed her, there's a huge smile on her face. She's into holding hands and there is no doubt that we'll be sleeping together as soon as possible. HOWEVER, there's mixed signals too. She's said twice now (in 24 hours) in a very serious tone, that we're not getting back together now, and that she doesn't want me to get all emotional when I leave (we live in different countries). She's been pretty indecisive in general in that recent past: She's looking for a new relationship, she doesn't want a boyfriend. She wants to be with me, she doesn't feel the same way anymore, we're not right for each other, maybe we'll get married in a couple years, etc. I don't know what to think at this point. We're gonna spend some significant time together in the coming weeks, including things that only couples do. We've been cuddly and kissy so far in the 24 hours it's been, and the only reason we haven't slept together is because of the circumstances. So essentially, I don't know what's going on. Right now I'm just going to concentrate on enjoying what's in front of me. If she wants to spend some time with me and have sex, I'm all for it. But this isn't a sexual girl, and she's not the type to invite me just for the sex. I don't understand what type of relationship she wants because I've ruled out friendship, and she sometimes rules out a committed relationship, so what does that leave? I know that more than anything, the thing that freaks her out is that I'm "way into her" and making plans based on her. Otherwise she seems to swoon at my command. Well, any thoughts? Guys I'm stumped!
Dblock10 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 i think on some levels you are deluded. firstly, if you were a betting man you would bet she hasn't been with another guy in 10 months. are you mental? secondly i don't know one female who isn't sexually orientated. she likes you by sounds of it, yet she doesn't want you to be clingy or after her. in essence you have a fwb situation and thats all it is.
Author BeachBoy1 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 i think on some levels you are deluded. firstly, if you were a betting man you would bet she hasn't been with another guy in 10 months. are you mental? secondly i don't know one female who isn't sexually orientated. she likes you by sounds of it, yet she doesn't want you to be clingy or after her. in essence you have a fwb situation and thats all it is. Ok, deluded is a pretty strong word. But maybe you are right. This girl is fairly nonsexual, so I am certain that's she's kissed others... but like I said, if I was betting I wouldn't bet on sex. Could be wrong, and if so, it doesn't matter. What is fwb if I might ask?
listen_to_me_please Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Ok, deluded is a pretty strong word. But maybe you are right. This girl is fairly nonsexual, so I am certain that's she's kissed others... but like I said, if I was betting I wouldn't bet on sex. Could be wrong, and if so, it doesn't matter. What is fwb if I might ask? it means you two will have sex together but not exclusively, she'll go bang other dudes and she expects you to do the same.
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