michaeljones Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 I know someone who has just come out of a relationship which didnt last long yet seemed to hit her quite hard, he dumped her. Anyway its been a couple of months since this and during that time we been getting on really really well, one of those cases where it seemed like fate due to our very very similar characters, she knows i am intersted and I was almost certain she was. Heres the problem: The last few weeks shes gone really cold on me, almost to the point where I feel I have been used and abused. I will not push her on this because I believe there is a valid reason yet its quite painful for me coz I was starting to fall for her and also I would like to know where I stand but feel askin her would be selfish of me. Im only 21 and shes a bit younger so I am not an expert. Just feel a bit heartbroken and confused... I'm not a woman and I know breakups are hard, my question is does anybody have any idea how this is gonna pan out? What should I do? Should I do anything? Anyone??? Thanks.
Netprophet Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 Well, let me use my favorite line, or well concept, Honesty is everything, I wish I'd had someone I could have gone to for advice when I was 21, but I was in the navy, and the best advice you get on an aircraft carrier is, wait til we get to France, you'll forget all about her. Be honest with yer, if she's not interested, you know, if she is, you know. That's all there is to it, if you want to know something, ask it, get an answer and then use your newfound knowledge to expand your relationship or, move on to find one that is more rewarding. Don't let yourself get caught up in a circle of self-questioning and confusion, ask your way out of it. The best things are found in truth, painful or not... Hope you find out what you need to, and that it turns out good for you.
Author michaeljones Posted July 10, 2004 Author Posted July 10, 2004 I appreciate the advice but anytime i ask a question she never answers me. I actually feel like i am being ignored. The thing is, why would she act soooo interseted and then just suddenly freeze up? I believe she likes me, i truly do, but i also believe something is confusing her and the only thing I can see is her feelings for the ex-boyf getting in the way. I need help!!!
azianG4y Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 The best way to figure out what's going on inside someone's head is just to ask them. You should also take note of what things may have changed to cause the lapse in communication. Does she have more stress at work or school? Are there family problems? Is money tight? Often times, these types of problems spill over into relationships without the couple being aware of it. Maybe she just needs a little support and love. Plan a romantic evening where you can both spend some quality alone time together. Take that opportunity to bring up the fact you've noticed some changes and were wondering if things were okay in her life right now. g'lucck
Author michaeljones Posted July 11, 2004 Author Posted July 11, 2004 My real question is: If a woman act so interested in you and she makes it pretty darn clear to you, and then just goes completely cold even tho u done nothing wrong... What does it mean?
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