I still miss him

[sandyblonde]

Hi all!.

So this guy and me were dating for about 5 months..and a month ago he dumped me ..the reasons he gave was that his feelings for his ex resurfaced,his ex and him were together for about 4 years..and within 5 months he was seeing me..there was also another issue about the whole sex thing,I was a virgin at the time and had told him i was saving myself for marriage..initially he was ok with it and had said that eventually if I do decide to do it..it should be when I am ready..I liked that about him and over the next couple of months I thought this was the guy I am going to lose my virginity to..cos like I really really liked this guy..and we attempted to do it couple of times (albeit it was quite painful) ..but then he dumped me and I just feel horrible ...and I was even more hurt by the fact that I lost my virginity to him..and I got dumped..and like the other reasons he gave were that he didnt want to be the guy that has sex with me and if we dont end up together in the future it wouldnt be good and that he didnt want to be the guy who does that to me ..also another reason he gave was that we both are different religious backgrounds as well so our families probably wouldnt have agreed to our relationship..fair enough that makes sense I guess..(though I know that if he really loved me he would not care about the whole family thing,,and neither would I..I know that once we get married our famlies wont interfere)..it but I felt he was using that as an excuse to come out of our relationship...what I make it of it is that I was his rebound..the fact that he was thinking of his ex while he was with me only proves that..and since then I went NC for 18 days..then I sent him a letter asking if we could talk sometime ..to which he replied with an fb message..saying that and I kinda got excited about it ..which was a mistake..and started to incessantly message him like every 3-4 days..by the 3rd or 4th message he stopped replying..which hurt of course..also he had broken up with me over a series of skype messages..so I didnt really get a chance to like tell my feelings to him..so I decided that the only way I could move on was if I delete him from my friend list which I did..I also wrote a long email to him citing both of our faults in the relationship..nothing spiteful though i did tell him that I felt I was his rebound..I think that email was a mistake ..theres no way he will ever talk to me now and I just feel like ****..every morning I wake up and I think of him..hoping he will make some sort of contact..i think sending him that email and deleting him has negated the chances..but I know it wont happen..moreover his ex and him live in the same city..so who knows what must have happened ..I just miss him so damn much :(..and it probably doesnt make sense to expect us to work out..cos like I said I feel I was his rebound..

[sanctun]

sorry you had to go thru this butg we've all been there,done that.you feel like **** right now but just maintain nc,and givve it time it wont hurt as much.I miss my ex too,but she is with someone else so yeah,if you need someone to talk to im there for you.

[Tyler.]

It looks like you really liked this guy so you're hung up on him. But i think the reason for this is because you didn't get closure to the relationship. I know how you feel, i've felt that myself. But you know, not everybody is respectful and trustworthy, no matter how much time you've spent with him. You might have been a rebound, or not but you got to understand that as long as he has feelings for his ex, you shouldn't want to be with him. Even if he says he wants to be with you. You both deserve the best relationship, and if he can't give that to you he shouldn't be given a chance.

And by breaking up through skype or facebook, that's immature. Forget him. Do productive stuff, work out or focus on work. Cuz what you've told doesn't describe him as that much of a nice person. Let him go. And remind yourself, you shouldn't be in a relationship if the other person is not fully invested in it. You don't want a partner that is thinking of other people, that's just rude and disrespectful to you. Give yourself credit and demand their respect. And for the love of god people, DO NOT SETTLE for anything less than perfect.Cuz that's what love should be.