Hazyhead Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Three years ago (or so) I came to Loveshack pretty much devastated from the debris of an affair I had with a married man. I found a lot of support here, and whilst I don't know who from that time still reads, I wanted to offer my thanks and shed some hope here for those that feel they will never get over it. It took me a long time, years of reconnecting, jumping back into NC, reconnecting, etc. etc. BUT despite attempts by xMM to rekindle, I am free. The last year has been eye opening for me, as many of my close friends have moved forward to bigger things in their lives: marriage, babies, etc. and I found myself thinking, 'What about me?' So I took a leap. I am happy in my career and have lots of wonderful people around me but a challenge is what I need. In four weeks I move away to another country to for adventure and work and I cannot wait. I will always think fondly of xMM but have NO desires to ever be with him. I realise how much more I deserved all along and will never again settle for less. Thank you to those of you who got me here. 12
scatterd Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I am glad to see you have a better life. Congratulations. 1
MissBee Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I wasn't around back then, but I'm so happy for you! How exciting! Congrats and good luck on your new chapter. The person you love and are with should help you and be able to be alongside you on your journey, taking you to new heights. You shouldn't feel stuck and stagnant and like the relationship is holding you back. Great for you for breaking free of that dead-end and congrats again! 1
jwi71 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I remember you I'm am SO glad you are free and clear of your moniker. I definitely remember the back and forth you went through. Glad it's over for you. Glad you have learned your lessons - albeit with a few bumps and bruises. Congrats on the job. Moving to another another country is an AWESONE experience - I've lived all over Asia myself - loved every minute of it. Usually. Time to look forward. Life's in front of you, not behind (but be mindful of where you have been and where you are know). I can't think of any awe inspiring quote so I'll leave you with this: Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't. (bonus points for whoever can identify that) 2
sleepie Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't. (bonus points for whoever can identify that) Almond Joy has nuts. Mounds don't.
Author Hazyhead Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 I wasn't around back then, but I'm so happy for you! How exciting! Congrats and good luck on your new chapter. The person you love and are with should help you and be able to be alongside you on your journey, taking you to new heights. You shouldn't feel stuck and stagnant and like the relationship is holding you back. Great for you for breaking free of that dead-end and congrats again! I totally agree. We compromise so much for relationships like these, most importantly - ourselves and that is not sustainable, I don't think, for happiness. That's exactly how I felt MissBee: stagnant. For so long, actually! Thank you for your comments. I remember you I'm am SO glad you are free and clear of your moniker. I definitely remember the back and forth you went through. Glad it's over for you. Glad you have learned your lessons - albeit with a few bumps and bruises. Congrats on the job. Moving to another another country is an AWESONE experience - I've lived all over Asia myself - loved every minute of it. Usually. Time to look forward. Life's in front of you, not behind (but be mindful of where you have been and where you are know). I can't think of any awe inspiring quote so I'll leave you with this: Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't. (bonus points for whoever can identify that) jw, I remember you too. Very well - you are one of those who helped me; shaking me by the shoulders and telling me it wasn't good enough and you were so right (which I always knew despite not always acting upon it). I'm so excited about the move as I have never lived elsewhere before but have always dreamed of doing. I think this is my time now - looking forward is definitely where I'm at. Wondering about the nut quote... it's familiar. Determined to get it before hitting up Google. I think I felt like a nut for three years Hope you are well. 1
freestyle Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Hazyhead--It's good to hear from you, and I'm delighted to hear about you being in a better place emotionally. I remember you as being a kind, and fair poster here. I wish you my best in your new career move. to jwi71___Thanks a lot! Now that jingle's going to be stuck in my head for the next two hours!:laugh:
TrebleClef Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Three years ago (or so) I came to Loveshack pretty much devastated from the debris of an affair I had with a married man. I found a lot of support here, and whilst I don't know who from that time still reads, I wanted to offer my thanks and shed some hope here for those that feel they will never get over it. It took me a long time, years of reconnecting, jumping back into NC, reconnecting, etc. etc. BUT despite attempts by xMM to rekindle, I am free. The last year has been eye opening for me, as many of my close friends have moved forward to bigger things in their lives: marriage, babies, etc. and I found myself thinking, 'What about me?' So I took a leap. I am happy in my career and have lots of wonderful people around me but a challenge is what I need. In four weeks I move away to another country to for adventure and work and I cannot wait. I will always think fondly of xMM but have NO desires to ever be with him. I realise how much more I deserved all along and will never again settle for less. Thank you to those of you who got me here. How refreshing this is to read. I can't wait to get where you are. Congratulations and good luck in your endeavors!
Happyface Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Hazyhead, I remember you... I was Gentlegirl, but got over being too gentle and giving. Now I am truly Happyface. It is so good to know that you are well and that life is looking great again. Best Wishes for the Future.
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