Titanwolf Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Consider all the long lasted relationships you have. The ones that last pretty much a lifetime. Those involving your pets, those involving your family and friends. What allows us to have such healthy, long lasting relationships with these people? the absence of sex. Though once a tool to unite two people so tightly, that none could divide, is now a casual past time, used to "have fun", "enhance relationships" or simply to release sexual frustration. I've been wondering though, the people closest to me are the people I grew to love in the absence of sex. The memories shared together, the lessons taught and learnt, the mutual growth etc etc. I've recently come to believe that you can only say you truly love someone, if you could spend the rest of your lives with them WITHOUT sex. Strange viewpoint, I know and no I'm no asexual. I think personally, that sex is a way to alleviate your partner's biological urges (as well as procreation) and is not an absolute factor in the development of love. I'm finding it hard to process my thoughts atm, but you get the general idea (I hope). Feel free to tell me if you think differently, pull no punches.
MrCastle Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Those other relationships seem fulfilling and fruitful because you've maxed them out. You're not gonna have sex with a pet or one of your friends. Those urges never even come up because you know sex is off the table completely. You've done everything you could do in those other relationships. You've bonded with them, shared your deepest thoughts and secrets, experienced new things, etc. Sex wasn't hanging over your head because you knew it would never be. When picking out a romantic partner sex is part of the relationship. At one point or another. Whether you wait till you get married or whatever, it's expected at some point. It takes things to a new level. You not only share the same emotional depth as you did with your friends and loved ones, now you're sharing a physical depth that is unmatched. Sex is the very basis of our existence. If there is no sex, there are no people.
utterer of lies Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 The memories shared together, the lessons taught and learnt, the mutual growth etc etc. I've recently come to believe that you can only say you truly love someone, if you could spend the rest of your lives with them WITHOUT sex. Strange viewpoint, I know and no I'm no asexual. I think personally, that sex is a way to alleviate your partner's biological urges (as well as procreation) and is not an absolute factor in the development of love. There are different kinds of love. Romantic love has a strong sex component. You will never crush on your siblings (at least I hope you don't ), but that's because it's a different kind of love from what you feel for a partner.
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