billnye Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I'm 19, and my girlfriend is 18, we've been together for a year and some months now, and we're currently in a long distance relationship (home from college for summer) we're 600 miles apart. When I had left to come back home in mid june, it was very hard for us to let go, we were honestly the perfect couple. Whenever we're together, we are inseparable, but after I came back home, things became tough, I would bicker and yell, and take her for granted, since I came back in June I've been very negative, not really showing her much love, attention, or even having a positive attitude. Recently she told me she wants a break, she tells me she has feelings for me, she loves me, and even that she's still in love with me. But she tells me she's sick of my bs and the way i've been treating her lately. She asked for a few days on her own so she could think things through, what do I do, and have I lost her? If I have, why does she tell me she's still in love with me.
Ruby65 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 but after I came back home, things became tough, I would bicker and yell, and take her for granted, since I came back in June I've been very negative, not really showing her much love, attention, or even having a positive attitude. Seriously -- stop doing that. How does it NOT make sense to you that she wouldn't be happy with you when you're behaving this way?
Author billnye Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Seriously -- stop doing that. How does it NOT make sense to you that she wouldn't be happy with you when you're behaving this way? It makes sense to me that she's not happy, but what I don't get is what she wants from me, do I give her the space, or do I try to act better.
Ruby65 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I'd let her know that you've heard her concerns and are looking at how you can change your behavior for the better. Tell her you want to respect her need for space and that you'll be happy to talk about how to improve things whenever she's ready to talk. Then leave her be until she contacts you -- and hope for the best!
Author billnye Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 I'd let her know that you've heard her concerns and are looking at how you can change your behavior for the better. Tell her you want to respect her need for space and that you'll be happy to talk about how to improve things whenever she's ready to talk. Then leave her be until she contacts you -- and hope for the best! Do you think she wants to leave me, or she really just wants a break to see if I can be the guy I once was?
Author billnye Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Why? This is the problem, so get to the bottom of it. She won't let me, she's telling me to leave her alone for a few days, but I'm scared if I let her get too distant she's going to leave, I feel like the past few weeks have just been bad, and she'll be judging me on those weeks, so if I go NC I feel like she won't miss me cause I haven't been treating her the greatest lately. And it's really just the distance, we can't be apart, it's too hard for us.
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