sleepie Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 So I'm ready now to totally block and delete, as many people suggested a week ago when I first went NC. Problem is: How do I do it? I have an app on my iPhone that allows me to block his number, pick-up and hang-up immediately on any calls from him, and erase his texts before I see them. But to do that, I have to keep his phone number in my phone. If I actually delete his number from my phone, then if he calls or texts it'll come right through to me. Changing my phone number is not an option. I have hundreds of work contacts that I would have to notify, and my job would NOT be happy about it. At this point I have him blocked, so I am basically relying on my own self-control for maintaining NC. Not a problem right now, as I feel strong and resolved that this is the end. I hope I have no future weak moments, but I want to be prepared just in case.
jwi71 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Good for you! Who is your carrier? If you're in the U.S., there are many carriers that give you the option to block numbers for a nominal monthly charge. Have you tested the app? Yup. Call your carrier. They can do it and no text or call from that blocked number will go through.
mercy Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Don't know a darn thing about your question. Sorry lass I'm a dumba$$ when it comes to that stuff! Just wanted to let you know I'm cheering you on your new path in life. I wish you much joy!
MissBee Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 As long as your app intercepts the calls and texts then you should be fine. I frankly would not change my number or pay any fees to block a man I dated. Unless he is a stalker or something, then I just feel like that's inconveniencing me way too much and I'd rather apply self control. I knew my ex's number by heart, so deleting it or even blocking him would make no difference, as it was in my brain. I simply deleted the number out of my contacts so that it would not be easy access. I'd have to manually type it in to call or text and usually that gave me time to think about if I really wanted to send that msg or make that call. That helped a lot and prevented impulsive/drunk texting/calling. With another ex I wasn't ready to delete him so i simply changed his name to something else...once it was a simple period sign and another time it was something like "Jackass" LMAO! Point is, it was a reminder to me not to call him when I saw that and the period made it innocuous as I didn 't have the same reaction to a period sign that I did his actual name. So plenty of ways to avoid speaking with someone and blocking them without inconveniencing yourself by changing your number or paying fees just to block one person.
Hazyhead Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 You could leave his number in your phone and give him a new name..? Chance to be very creative 1
MissBee Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 You could leave his number in your phone and give him a new name..? Chance to be very creative You could even ask a friend to change it to some completely plain and insignificant name, and not show you what they changed it to. That way it will be there, under a name that is plain and one that rings no bells for you. I know I have a lot of contacts and then I have my favorites list. My favorites are the people I call often and I just go to that list or my call log to call them, and pretty much I hardly ever see the rest of my contacts unless for some reason I'm searching for someone I rarely call. So if a friend changed a guy's name to John or something and didn't show me, I'd probably never see it or notice, and the name John would ring no bells.
Author sleepie Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Thanks for the suggestions! Yes, perhaps changing his name is the thing to do. I love the jacka$$ idea! 1
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