k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Basically When i noticed the ex semed to be seeing someone else from her profiel pic I sent her a message, nothing nasty and asked for my watch to be return, i explained in the message that I was now going to block her and move on and i did straight away. anyway, I obviously got no reply on facebook and it has now been almost 2 weeks with no sign of the watch, I mentioned this to a female friend who said she may not have had chance to read the message before you blocked her. Which made me think maybe she hasnt seen it, anyway I thought that if you sent someone a message and blocked them afterward they would still recieve the message but not be able to reply or click on your profile. does anyone know if this is the case?
headsashed Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 If u blocked her AFTER you sent the message then she will see it but wont be able to reply.
TheBetterPerson Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 She would of seen it! no doubt about that!! but because you blocked her she would probably pretend she didnt get it!
Author k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Yeah i thought that was the case. I googled it first to mmake sure it would arrive. I mean she could pretend she didnt get it but as i say it wasn't a nasty message and I think it left things on a good note. just said i hoped she found happiness and was happier now and it was time for me to get back to being myself and find happiness too. I said the only reason I am asking for the watch back is not because i think she will keep it just because then it's done you know, i can move on and it wont turn up a month down the line and make feelings reappear and remind me of her. I then wished her well for the future and a great time on her travels. x I guess i will just have to wait and see, I am reluctant to unblock her and message her.
TheBetterPerson Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I guess i will just have to wait and see, I am reluctant to unblock her and message her. do not unblock her, keep her blocked, best way, trust, speaking from serious expeirence 1
stillafool Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Is it your watch you want back or a watch you gave to her?
Author k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 It is my watch, she was going away to work for the summer and she left some things with me to remind me of her ect and i gave a few things to her and this watch is very special to me so it was kind of to show her how much i cared trusting her with the watch. She knew it wasn't a gift and when we split up the first thing she said was I will make sure your watch it returned to you. this was 6 weeks ago, 3 weeks ago i asked her about it and she said she would send it but she didnt hadnt had time as she would need someone to translate to the person in the post office for her as it would need to be insured and living in a tiny village in the mountains most don't speak english at all. Then a week later when i saw the pics i asked for it back and blocked her straight away and have not spoken or had contact with her since. I would like to think she would honour my wishes and send the item back asap as i have said i want to move on and haven't being a nasty person, was nice to her through the relationship she even said nobody had ever treat her better and I didn't cheat ect.
haribogumsnickers Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Forget the watch and delete your FB. FB is evil. 1
Author k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 I dont have her on my FB anymore and she is blocked so i don't see anything by her or her me and she cannot search for me ect. If it was something i purchased I would just simply let it go but this was left to me by a close friend of the family who passed away and it is VERY expensive. she has lots of things of mine that i would never ask for back, i wouldnt ask for gifts back ect ever but just as I have somethings of hers that i will make sure are returned I expect this to be returned also.
Dblock10 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 drop her a message again or go and visit her address and get that watch back then once you have it, never look back.
Author k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 I don't want to unblock her as i will see her profile pic ect and I don't want to engage in conversation that might set me back. I can't visit her to get the watch back as she has got a summer job in another country and I don't actually know if she plans to come back now. I will just have to wait it out and see, if it comes back then great and if not i have learnt a lesson
Dblock10 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 thats not good enough man, this watch is important she is not. i guess you will have to wait it out. it probably will come back if you asked her for it. she wouldn't have a reason to keep it. so just chill and forget it
Author k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Yeah I don't think she would keep it, as i have said she has no reason to hate me or feel she has to do something bad toward me, she always said i treat her better than anyone else ever has. I really don't believe she is the type of person who would do something like that either, she could be childish and act out and be nasty sometimes but she definitely had a conscience also. It was just when i was chatting actually with a previous ex today and she mentioned she might not have got the message or may have thought well f u you blocked me ect that made me think. I like to think she would respect my wishes and send it back as soon as possible, she may have been busy but i think this would be the least she could do, she ended it, I took the time a week prior to send her a package she wanted full of things she needed and I paid for pretty much everything in our relationship so I just thought she would do it within a couple of days. postage only takes roughly 4 days from italy. it has now been 13 days with no sign. I guess im kind of wanting it back but also dreading it coming back aswell, there is a chance there might be a note with it, and it is like the final piece if that makes sense, then she is gone forever with no reason to ever talk again.
Pod81 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Do you have any mutual friends that might be able to relay the message to her? That way, you'll get to keep NC and hopefully get your watch back.
Author k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 We do have a few friends in common, I'm not sure if they stay in touch while she is travelling but I don't really want to go about it at way, like asking a friends to ask her to send my watch back and stuff just seems a little childish passing messages back and forth. I have to take it she got the message and she knew even before this i was waiting for it to be returned so I guess I will just have to wait. I have lots of her things here that i said i will return to her friends house, she didnt ask for them back i just said i would return them, maybe she is waiting for me to take those back and then she will send the watch I don't know. these things dont have a value like my watch but i have assured her that i will make sure they get back to her and she has no reason to not trust me. If i have to I will contact her sister or dad and just say Is it ok if i courier her things back to your house. I don't really want to pass massages about getting my own stuff back though.
g450 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 K100 just let the damn thing go. Christ, is it a Rolex or something? Sounds to me like you are going to use the watch as an excuse to break NC. Just forget about your Timex and let her go. Buy yourself a new watch and live your life. Hell who uses watches nowdays anyway. All our phones have the time.
Author k100danny Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 It has nothing to do with the value of the watch although it isn't a cheap timex it has a retail value of over a $1000 probably nearer $1500 but it is the sentimental value. I bought her many gifts while we were together again expensive items but I wouldnt ask for those back. It was left to me in a will from a close friend of the family and this is the only reason that I asked for it to be returned. If it was a watch i had bought for that price I wouldn't care one bit if it never came back, I wouldn't waste my time for the sake of what it is worth. I am also not using it as an excuse to break no contact, I had many chances to contact her before this regarding it but only id once even before i decided to actually put the NC label on it. I don't plan on messaging her or anyone else regarding it, my original question was will she have got the message, nothing to do with where is my watch I am going to ask for it back again.
Dblock10 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 yes she would have got the message, unless fb deletes the message or content between you and them if you del and block?
Author k100danny Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 No i'm pretty sure it doesn't do that, i had an ex block me before and i could still see all previous messages before the block, It just doesnt have a profile pic and you cant click on the person i believe.
g450 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Then go over there just ask her for the damn watch back and be done with it then. It's not rocket science. Why all the drama?
Author k100danny Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 Because flying to italy from the uk for a watch back is a bit extreme however important it is.
edelveis Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Well if you really want only the watch and nothing more go to her place take it,leave and then start forgeting her and move on.keep her blocked if it helps you.And dont break NC for any reason..its the right thing to do.
Author k100danny Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 That's what Im saying I cant go and take it. It was something of mine i gave to her to remind her of me while she went to work in another country for the summer, something she had planned before we got together. so now it is in italy with her and I am in the uk. I don't want to break no contact and I don't plan on it. She will stay blocked, my only question on here was will she have got the message of me asking for it to be returned before I blocked her and I have found out the answer is yes.
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