Broken_heart_Vee Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Hello, Can anyone please give advice on what i should do i am very confused. I been with my ex for just over 2 years we started off with a great relationship, we both were very much in love and did everything together and very happy. About last year August her feelings became distant and we carried on just enjoying each others company and dragging the relationship along. It was more her feelings towards me which changed, she became very confused and wasnt sure why her feelings began to change. About 4 months ago i went NC for a month and sent her a text which she responded to because i booked to go and watch a concert and wanted to know if she still wanted to go. She did. After the concert the next day we were texting each other she was thanking me for everything and that she will never forget this experience. She held my hand at the concert even kissed me. The next day she was texting me about how emotional she is and that shes been crying all day. I was concerned and called to speak to her which we did. Later after giving 3 days gap i was missing her and text to see if she would like to hangout and go get lunch, she refused and said she dont think its a good idea. I explained i wanted to give relationship another go which she refused to give a go as there is too many issues which has caused problems in the first place i.e jeolousy, neediness etc. I told her i have thought about my mistakes and know where the problems are. We since then have been in contact but not as we used to be. She wants me to move on. I dont want to give up on her as i know she loves me deep down and her feelings for me are hidden. She has explained in her text only 3 days ago she is confused and sorry it wasnt what she wanted to hurt me. What should i do??
YorickBrown Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwdude! you broke the NC Rule!!!!...which is...hello? No Contact...or lets re-phrase that...NO CONCERTS!!!...but you already did...so now, you're reaping the consequences... She'll be playing you now....like a concerto! You'd be in her groupie...you'd be her head bitch Kidding aside... i dunno, did she offer you at least FWB??? Seriously... is there a remedy for someone who broke No Contact? LS NC veterans?
Author Broken_heart_Vee Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) Thanks for your response YorickBrown. I did the NC for a month and i needed to know what i needed to do with the concert tickets it was something which we talked about when we were together and paid a lot of money for it. Also i felt if i had no contacted her she would move on. She will remember this event which is what i wanted if we didnt workout in the long run. And no she didnt offer FWB. Edited July 25, 2012 by Broken_heart_Vee
YorickBrown Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Thanks for your response YorickBrown. I did the NC for a month and i needed to know what i needed to do with the concert tickets it was something which we talked about when we were together and paid a lot of money for it. Also i felt if i had no contacted her she would move on. She will remember this event which is what i wanted if we didnt workout in the long run. And no she didnt offer FWB. No problem Vee, sorry about the FWB bit...its really one of my "knee-jerk" reply when you get played like that especially when you got yourself in that mess in the first place...you know, a "consolation prize" at least for the price you paid:p Look, you just need to cut your losses, ACCEPT that the relationship is over and move on....that's primarily what the NC was for (the initial step)...you had a lapse in judgment. What's done is done. I dunno what you can do to undo it....uhmmm...find someone who will offer FWB??
Author Broken_heart_Vee Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) Thats ok dude. I really felt she is the one for me just like any other guy in here. I guess i have come to terms that i do need to move on and wish her all the best. I left a final text message saying its no one's fault and totally understand how she feels am always there for her leaving it open if she ever came back for re-conciliation..i wanted to know if there is anyway to get her back as she has always been a close friend first no matter what but i will not contact her..More important don't want to give up hope to try again...Thanks Edited July 25, 2012 by Broken_heart_Vee
YorickBrown Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I understand what you're feeling...Believe me, I felt the same way too and I probably did a lot more of stupid stuff & said silly talk to my ex like what you're saying right now...I meant it, but boy, how I wish I could take it back...or at least, did not do or said it in the first place! I'm cringing actually just thinking back... Anyways, just out of curiousity... Why do you want her back anyway, what makes her special? Think about it. She won't be the same person like the first time you knew her and you'd be the guy she just took back if you run after her... so why even try and hold out hope?
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