ziggue Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) There is this guy I am currently dating. We have been out about 5 times. All dates have been going well and he is still keen to continue seeing me. We only see each other once a week but. Either Friday or Sunday night. Is that normal for people who work full time? Besides that he has been really good with sending texts saying hello beautiful hope you are having a good day at work and has even rang me out of the blue just to talk and to get to know me. We end up talking for about an hour or two. We get on very well and have really good chemistry. He keeps telling me he likes me and likes spending time with me. Get heaps of compliments from him as well. We have slept together also and still get the same treatment after which is good. Today he messaged me he was in the area and wanted to have Lunch with me at work and we just hung out. No sex. He usually messages every two, three days and always initiates texts and phone calls. Does it sound like he genuinely is getting to know me and it is not just about sex? It is hard to tell these days with guys. No mention of wanting a casual thing and I did ask casually, the last time we had sex if this was just a one night stand trying to get an idea of where I did stand with him and he said no. Does it seem like this guy cares and is trying to get to know me even though we only see each other once or week? Hopefully twice this week if I see him on Sunday. He says he is gonna get back to me on that. Edited July 25, 2012 by ziggue
TheDeputy Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 From what you told me, it sounds like he genuinely likes you, and isn't just using you for sex. You both work full time so once or twice a week is fine. That's what I do with the girl I'm dating now as we're full time too. Stop worrying about it, and just see where it goes
Author ziggue Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Us both working full time does come into factor with that. He also works some weekends as well. Where as I just do the normal 9 to 5 thing.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) Seems normal and interested....to what degree unknown, I'm a little apprehensive of guys who use pet names that early on, its like a swooning factor not necessarily genuine...he prob does something like this regularly w dating. As far as contacting you and making effort that's what you're looking for...how available and willing/desiring to see you despite his schedule. Don't fall for the worfs but trust your instincts and ask questions instead of shying away and sitting in the dark, its how women get easily mislead beause you're just "seeing where it goes" if you can have sex bit can't invest well in a communicative and openly emotional and expressive relationship then somethings wrong imo. Oh and don't assume that because you have sex w a man and he sticks around after he wants a relationship...sometimes he just wants to stick around and have sex w you for a little while until you start asking for serious questions;emotional and then they start to back pedal. Edited July 25, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I usually ask guys early on what they are looking for. I am probably asking too quickly and being way too blunt but at least I don't waste any time. I don't believe that guys can get scared off that easily. The worst is when guys say: It really depends how things go and what type of connection develops... but even that's good enough for me to stick around for a bit. This guy and you sound normal, he seems interested enough. You shouldn't be too invested at this point though. Also I cringe at sweet talkers but would give him the benefit of the doubt. He is possibly dating others if you don't hear from him for 2/3 days and only see him once a week.
USCGAviator Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I usually ask guys early on what they are looking for. I am probably asking too quickly and being way too blunt but at least I don't waste any time. I don't believe that guys can get scared off that easily. The worst is when guys say: It really depends how things go and what type of connection develops... but even that's good enough for me to stick around for a bit. This guy and you sound normal, he seems interested enough. You shouldn't be too invested at this point though. Also I cringe at sweet talkers but would give him the benefit of the doubt. He is possibly dating others if you don't hear from him for 2/3 days and only see him once a week. I would feel a little rushed to make a decision about someone if I was asked what I'm looking for. I prefer to have easy going fun dates and perhaps have that talk before we have sex. My response to that question right away is typically what you stated as the worst. I also admit to being a bit skittish about dating seriously as a result of my divorce. Next thing I know she's jumping my bones! So while I'm being honest about "not being sure what I want" shes saying "you can figure that out after some hot sex" I'm wondering if I'm the one being used for sex.
truth_seeker Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I would say too early to tell, but he does have interest in you, to what extent, you will have to find out as things progress. I wouldn't be surprised if he is dating other women right now. Why don't you ask him. If you guys met on OLD then most definitely he is dating other women.
Author ziggue Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 No did not meet the guy online. Met him at some singles night thing my friend and I went to. Trying not to worry about it and just enjoy it and yes I am going to suss out more what he does during the week with the rest of his time to get more of an idea of where he is at. Yes this guys definitely seems to be a bit of a sweet talker but learnt the hard way to look more at males actions not just going by what they say. By the way he is acting it does seem like it is going well. Fingers crossed it works out. He always goes on about like oh we can do this or that another day and when we had Lunch the other day he was like, next time we can do this when we are here. Is that also a good sign? Just gotta not pressure him or force it and let it happen naturally.
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