dannykeyz831 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I can't do this anymore! I'm so heartbroken right now. I had already accepted the fact that my ex gf and I weren't getting back together but today I find out that shes leaving in 2 weeks to southern california to continue her studies. Her semester don't start till the second week of september and she usually doesn't leave till a week before school starts but I found out that she's leaving earlier just so she can be with that guy who she had been talking to prior to us breaking up. I found pictures of them both that were taken last week on the phone that I had given her and that's when reality finally struck me in the face. Is this a rebound? I really hope it is because I can't get over the fact that she found someone so soon after having been living together only a month ago. This pain is unbearable. I never deserved any of this. I was always good to her and this is what I get. I can't effen' stop crying..what the hell do I do now? I love her to death and knowing that she's gonna be with another guy in a couple of weeks to hold eachother, kiss eachother, and experience new things together is what's gonna keep me from moving on. I'm so lost
YorickBrown Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I can't do this anymore! I'm so heartbroken right now. I had already accepted the fact that my ex gf and I weren't getting back together but today I find out that shes leaving in 2 weeks to southern california to continue her studies. Her semester don't start till the second week of september and she usually doesn't leave till a week before school starts but I found out that she's leaving earlier just so she can be with that guy who she had been talking to prior to us breaking up. I found pictures of them both that were taken last week on the phone that I had given her and that's when reality finally struck me in the face. Is this a rebound? I really hope it is because I can't get over the fact that she found someone so soon after having been living together only a month ago. This pain is unbearable. I never deserved any of this. I was always good to her and this is what I get. I can't effen' stop crying..what the hell do I do now? I love her to death and knowing that she's gonna be with another guy in a couple of weeks to hold eachother, kiss eachother, and experience new things together is what's gonna keep me from moving on. I'm so lost Sorry, that's really tough dude...fking sucks right? Well, first of all we're practically in the same boat bro (almost the same really)... at least, you're not alone right? Misery loves company and believe me there's lot of us in here and even in much worse situations...My heart (whatever is left of it) goes out to you... Now for the advice part, if you can, stop crying ok? Its good that you're letting it out....but becomes pathetic to say the least, and counter-productive if you keep doing it..a lot. You didn't give that much details of why or what caused the break up. Probably because you're both young? :confused:Whatever. Doesn't matter really now nways...If she had already quickly found someone else and moved on then it's OVER for you bud. I'm sure this was already "planned" out by her in advance...Us guys don't usually pick up on this...or if ever we do...we kinda "ignore" it (yeah, coz we "love them to death"...and just like that we're deadmeat). It's perfectly normal to feel stunned, distraught, "lost" etc...and its gonna get worse actually ....its already been more than a month now and I still feel the pain of the loss... So here's what you hafta do...(although, it really depends on your personality)....but these are kinda standard: 1) ACCEPT that its OVER, I mean, REALLY ACCEPT IT (i'm not exactlysure how this is done...coz its a process) 2) Keep it civilized, dont make an ass of yourself as much as you can (although, this may not be easy in the early stages...so you may have to surround yourself with level-headed people to keep your ass in line). 3) and initiate NO CONTACT protocols (i make it sound serious) as soon as you can (preferably, immediately) 4) Keep yourself occupied with something...anything...uhmmm...but don't watch sex videos you made together! or wait...maybe you should...hahaha:p Or, you can do what I did.... before I "learned" to do the above...Nah, just follow the above and you'll be ok...the recovery would be much "faster"
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