biogirl05 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 i'm doing really poorly. I was ok for a while and trying to be hopeful, but now I'm just sad and getting worse. My ex broke up with me about three weeks ago and moved to a foreign country. We aren't no contact but we keep our conversations light and superficial. My friends are staying far away. Cry and you cry alone, i guess. But i really really hate being alone. And I've been doing some things for myself here and there, went to the gym a couple times, yoga, and i'm trying to join some clubs, get out and meet people. But I still feel hopelessly sad, and I"m crying a lot now. I try to keep myself distracted but I feel like my world has ended. I had a therapist but she dumped me too!! I just feel really sad
hinatticus Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I'm sad today too. I cried today too. Why did your therapist dump you? I'm usually strong but sometimes sh*t hits the fan and I break down. It's good that you're trying to do things for yourself. Sometimes life just sucks doesn't it? Gotta try and look on the bright side I guess. Dwelling on the past is a killer. Looking to the future at what could've been is a killer. Sh*t the present isn't that great either, I swear I was trying to say something positive. Maybe I was gonna say something about the present is what we have now and control, do your best?!? Not very positive I know. I'm down in the dumps right now so my advice isnt very good. Sorry.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 That would make a funny bumper sticker. "I Got Dumped By My Therapist." Hope you laughed a little. 1
Author biogirl05 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 if it happened to you , it wouldn't be funny. She said she thought I wasn't opening up to her (not sure how crying my heart out qualifies as being stiff but whatever), and that maybe we just aren't a good fit. Of course, before she explained all that she put it "do you really want to make another appointment? Maybe you could think about it and call me later in the week when you decide." B****. I guess you get what you pay for, but I don't have great insurance. She knows I just got out of a long relationship, I definately didn't need that! Feel like everyone is dumping me and it's stupid. Therapists are supposed to at least try to help you instead of trying to convince you not to come to therapy! I know a said it before but what a b****!
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 if it happened to you , it wouldn't be funny. She said she thought I wasn't opening up to her (not sure how crying my heart out qualifies as being stiff but whatever), and that maybe we just aren't a good fit. Of course, before she explained all that she put it "do you really want to make another appointment? Maybe you could think about it and call me later in the week when you decide." B****. I guess you get what you pay for, but I don't have great insurance. She knows I just got out of a long relationship, I definately didn't need that! Feel like everyone is dumping me and it's stupid. Therapists are supposed to at least try to help you instead of trying to convince you not to come to therapy! I know a said it before but what a b****! Think you'll laugh at it one day. Don't take the therapist thing so personally. There are good matches between therapists/counselors and their clients and not so good matches. She may have realized she would suck at helping you and didn't want to waste both of your time. However, she may be fantastic at helping others that may have different areas to work on. So don't be afraid or offended to try another one. Happens everyday for lots of people. There are things to distract you that I'm sure you are trying. One thing that is very beneficial is exercise in the sun. FORCE yourself to do it. Walking, running, biking, whatever. Force yourself even when there is not one part of you that wants too. Put on the Ipod and really push yourself. It will help. 1
hinatticus Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Your therapist sounds like a cunt. Sorry you feel miserable.
CopingGal Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I had a therapist who was the person in charge of the whole mental health department and he was a stupid bastard...believe me. I dumped him. Some therapists are just bad. I paid that guy with my insurance. I've had free therapists that are a ton better than him. I saw a super low cost therapist that pretty much saved me and because of her I got out of a relationship with a sociopathic man. Your therapist sounds like a fool. I'm so, so sorry. There are better ones out there whether they are free or not. You have to keep searching. If you don't have money, consider another free or low cost one. They aren't all bad.
Coffee20 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 can't believe your therapist did that to you, I am so sorry what about your family? is there anyone from your family who you could spend your time with? I would recommend to try to be in NC with your ex, it just keeps you feeling worse.
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