Esp0125 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Ok so if everyone can just give me some insight it would be appreciated as I am new to this. I am divorced 6 months and I got back into the dating world. I did the whole online thing I'm 32. I was casually dating a few very nice girls and I met one that I really like. We spoke on the phone for a while and agreed to meet up for dinner. When we were on the phone she told me she has only been with her husband who she got divorced from three years ago and a long time boyfriend/ fiancee who she also broke up with 6 months ago. We are both looking for a long term thing. When we spoke she said she is very traditional and old fashioned and she doesn't kiss or anything on the first or 2nd date. I was totally fine with that after we went on the first date it was 5 hours and we really hit it off. We went out to dinner a few nights later and really hit it off again. Since the first date we talk every day and text throughout the day as we both work. I will get good morning texts from her as well as I send them. I haven't liked someone this much since my ex-wife when we first met. So here is my thing she knows I am interested as I told her and she says that she really looks forward to getting to know me better as well. Her last 2 relationships both ended pretty badly, her ex husband cheated on her and her last fiancee treated her pretty badly from the stories that I hear. Always told her to put more make up on and just try to change her. When I hear things like that I tell her I think you are beautiful the way you are and she smiles. I really think no one has complimented her in so long she almost feels funny excepting them. So here is my thing. Usually I have no problem closing with a kiss or something like that but I do not want to rush her as I really like this girl. She wants to go see a movie tomorrow so I am gonna hold her hand in the theater and start there but I just want some insight as I dont want to end up in the friend zone... I have never been there before and I hear its hell haha. The thing is she knows I am interested and I truly think she is too as i'll get the morning sunshine texts and the texts that she really cares how my day is going when i am at work. She also always puts the winks in when she texts. I just see she is heavily guarded from her past I just want to show her that I am here not just for the hook up and I will go at her pace. What does everyone think??? Any ideas as I am open. I actually stopped seeing the other girls for now as I really want to give this my full attention. She also said the first time we talked when she dates someone she only dates that person, she said that is part of the old fashioned in her. UPDATE---I know she knows I am interested as after our date the next day we spoke and I had to let her know she said she was interested as well... She said she really moves incredibly slow its how she has always been. She has only been with 2 men in her whole life.. She said when from the site I met her on she gave only a few guys her number she never went out with them after she met me and she is putting her effort into seeing where this goes. I guess I am def not used to anyone taking things this slow. I had to come right out and say I am not looking for a friend, I have no problem going at your pace but I def dont want a buddy... She laughed and agreed and said the same... Thanks for any help.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Stop doing what she wants to do and do something you want to do. You want to kiss her, kiss her. Grab her ass if you want too.
dasein Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Agree with SB. Slow is fine, but it's time to kiss this woman. Also, the "all bad exes" stories bug me a bit about this one. Just keep your eyes open and keep in mind what you want and how you want to proceed. Going slow is fine, but you still be the leader. Good luck.
hopelessromantic29 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Here's some advice from a woman.... during the movie, put your arm around her, and I don't mean just around her, like hug her for a moment during the movie. Kiss her forehead. It's a very endearing gesture from a man for us. Hold her hand, and kiss it. That will send signals to her that you want to kiss her. She should respond very well if she really likes you. That way, you're not too pushy and she can make the first move by all your signals. Trust me...it'll work. Good luck!
Author Esp0125 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Thank you for the insight it is very appreciated!
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