Brokendude Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Its been 12 days since ive spoken to her... Its really hard but im proud of myself, im severely hurt and still cry and miss my ex but the fact that i kept my dignity and never begged her gives me a sense of power...i truly hate how im hurting but the fact that im able to stick to nc gives me hope and reminds me that i got this, i truly feel its a strong message to ones self that we dont need these dumpers and theres nothing wrong with us, icant wait til were all strong again 1
k100danny Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Day 13 for me, I had a hard couple of days previous to today but today wasn't too bad. The hard days don't make me want to break no contact now and we were in limited contact before this anyway so i had drifted a little bit before this. I don't feel I want to contact her though now, obviously still hurt and I get that feeling when online sometimes of Shall I unblock her? take a peek at her profile pic? maybe if i unblock her she will get in touch? but i resist to do this but i know I will contact her in the future when i'm over her. I don't like things ending on a bad note and I suppose they didn't but one day i will clear the air with her as i did we the ex before her and ended up good friends with. I'm not sure how i will react if or when she sends my watch back like she said she would as it was mine not a gift to her. That will probably be a hard day, and on my final message to her I told her that the reason I wanted it back sooner rather than later was just so I could start to move on and not get a surprise a month down the line and have all sorts of feelings come back. She doesnt seem to have given me this one thing i asked for though as it's now almost 2 weeks with no sign of it, post only takes around 4 days from italy. I would like to think I would give someone I dumped their last wish of someting simple like that as soon as i could. Stay strong
hopelessromantic29 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 It's been 9 days without contact for me. Times are tough, but I am doing okay. Hang in there... we will all get through these hard times. I let myself mope, think about him if I want to, and cry if I need to. There have been times when I wake up startled bc I keep thinking, "is this really happening?" I have found that watching movies, listening to music, and talking to friends....even posting on LS are all very therapeutic. It may seem lame, but whatever I can do to keep busy so I don't call him. I miss him terribly, but this is for the best. I went out with friends Friday, and met someone, but quickly realize I wasn't ready. I'm determined to get over this....even if it takes a long time. This is my time to heal.
Sheppy99 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Its been 12 days since ive spoken to her... Its really hard but im proud of myself, im severely hurt and still cry and miss my ex but the fact that i kept my dignity and never begged her gives me a sense of power...i truly hate how im hurting but the fact that im able to stick to nc gives me hope and reminds me that i got this, i truly feel its a strong message to ones self that we dont need these dumpers and theres nothing wrong with us, icant wait til were all strong again I"m not sure if it was something I read on here or somewhere else but they said almost always the dumper ends up having a harder time with the relationship being over down the road and the dumpee is usually already over it by then when the dumper starts to realize what they lost. It may not seem it now but it's tougher in a lot of ways to be the dumper cause you'll always be second guessing yourself for the rest of your life. As the dumpee you don't have to have that burden. Let them wallow in it
whywhy Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Same with me. Been nc for a week but she called yesterday for business related stuff and wanted to talk, she said she couldn't beileve that I haven't been trying to contact her. I just told her I can't speak to her... Brokendude, congrats man. Keep it going brother
k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I don't think the dumpers always have a hard time later at all. I think should they end up single then they may wonder "what if" but more than likely they have moved on and realised why they broke up in the first place. It does get easier, I post on here most days and I'm not sure it is totally to avoid wanting to contact my ex or just looking for support for my future now. I don't have the urge to contact her, It's been 13 days now and I do still wonder what is going on in her head, if i am editting my behaviour because of her ect but It is getting easier. I too had tried to kind of date/flirt with people ect and it's just not happening. I can find someone attractive physically but my head isn't in the right place at all for a relationship at the moment. I did however meet a lovely girl but young, she's 20 and i'm 29. Now this girl is stunning, She is obviously too young for me but It got me thinking that personality wise and morals ect i think that is the kind of person i would look for in the future so I am definitely thinking about the future which i guess is a good sign. stay strong everyone, remember that great falling in love feeling? well we get to have that again you know, even if it's one last time until we meet THE ONE. at least we will get that great feeling again.
Author Brokendude Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Thank u guys fir the love and support and the encouragement, everytime i feel weak i just come on here and u huys never fail to bring me back up an for that im always grateful, i dont care if shes moved on or not or whatever the hell it is shes thinking, the only worries i have now is how im gonna be a much stronger and a better person after what shes put me through
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