without Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 So my friend is setting me up with a friend and he's 1 year younger. Is it really bad? Mostly guys older than me even seem childish .. and he's even younger than me... What do I do? Would you guys consider this? I'm 21 he's 20.
brahmabull117 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 LOL why is it awful? I'm 24 and I can carry a fine conversation with women in their 30s even 40s Age doesn't necessarily indicate maturity one way or the other
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 LOL why is it awful? I'm 24 and I can carry a fine conversation with women in their 30s even 40s Age doesn't necessarily indicate maturity one way or the other I see. Idk why i'm not feeling comfortable. maybe because its after a year im dating again... idk.
brahmabull117 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I see. Idk why i'm not feeling comfortable. maybe because its after a year im dating again... idk. Yea don't worry about it. Important thing is that you have chemistry. I have friends ranging from early 20s to late 30s. People are people
kaylan Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Look OP, either you two click or you dont. Either youre both similarly mature (or immature) or you arent. Its just one year, and I have no idea why young women act so weird about even the smallest age gap in which they are older than the guy. If I had to guess, itd be because most girls and women are used to dating boys and men a little older than them. This being due to women physically maturing faster, thus many men will be attracted t younger women. And since most boys dont grow into men just as fast, you see less girls chasing young bucks until they hit a certain age. This all being said, would lead young women to feeling more mature than their male peers (especially sinnce older boys will tell them so =P). And since dating someone younger is something that may be less common, it can be a little strange to try when its new to you. Im sure I might be the same way when first dating an older gal, as I havent done it yet, but I am open to it. In any case, OP I think you should just give things a shot. Its one measily year. No biggie. Im 25 and see 20 and 21 year olds as the same maturity wise.
brahmabull117 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Look OP, either you two click or you dont. Either youre both similarly mature (or immature) or you arent. Its just one year, and I have no idea why young women act so weird about even the smallest age gap in which they are older than the guy. If I had to guess, itd be because most girls and women are used to dating boys and men a little older than them. This being due to women physically maturing faster, thus many men will be attracted t younger women. And since most boys dont grow into men just as fast, you see less girls chasing young bucks until they hit a certain age. This all being said, would lead young women to feeling more mature than their male peers (especially sinnce older boys will tell them so =P). And since dating someone younger is something that may be less common, it can be a little strange to try when its new to you. Im sure I might be the same way when first dating an older gal, as I havent done it yet, but I am open to it. In any case, OP I think you should just give things a shot. Its one measily year. No biggie. Im 25 and see 20 and 21 year olds as the same maturity wise. I never got the memo about boys maturing physically later. I was 5'10 210 pounds (not fat) and looked 24 when i was 18 I can pass for 28-30 nowadays with some facial hair
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 In appearance there's no problem cuz I look younger than my age. But overall I'm not feeling comfortable.
brahmabull117 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 But overall I'm not feeling comfortable. Without knowing anything about him? Do you know how bizarre this behavior is? I have an 18 year old friend who is more mature than my 25 year old friend 1
carhill Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I recall dating someone younger. She was 29. I was 39. Within our dynamic, the age difference was irrelevant. We discontinued, not for reasons regarding the dynamic, but rather as a result of my meeting my exW. She would remain a friend for a number of years and I always admired her and respected her as a peer. Even today, with her being 43 and a mother, I don't think of her any differently. In your case, if he seems 'childish' to you and it is a turn-off, go with that. Don't date him. That said, don't paint all young men of his age, or younger, with a broad brush. They're all individuals. Take it case by case. 1
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Without knowing anything about him? Do you know how bizarre this behavior is? I have an 18 year old friend who is more mature than my 25 year old friend I know exactly... I'm used to dating guys 6 or 7 years older.. I look younger now but that will be taking a risk no? maybe he will look younger in a couple of years... why am i so scared ?
kaylan Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Ironic OP. In my opinion your own immaturity is showing. Its ONE year. Thats nothing. At least get to know the guy first. In my experience theres no difference in group maturity between 20 and 21 year olds, male or female. You yourself even said older guys were immature too. So whats the problem here? You see that age hasnt accurately depicted maturity in your experience...so pay attention to that. 2
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 you guys are right. I have talked to him once. chatted. we may meet next week. in his photo he looked younger than 20.
Balzac Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Are you both students? Being in the same life mode mediates a lot of any age difference.
dasein Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 There's a good chance you will be run out of town or made to wear a scarlet letter for dating a guy a year younger. Be very very careful and conduct yourself accordingly. 2
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 There's a good chance you will be run out of town or made to wear a scarlet letter for dating a guy a year younger. Be very very careful and conduct yourself accordingly. LOL Are you both students? Being in the same life mode mediates a lot of any age difference. Yes we both study in uni.
Balzac Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Total equalizer until summer internships and first big girl job. If it lasts that long. Likely he's restricted from some bar hopping as he's underage but that is campus specific. Not seeing a problem here. Clearly you haven't been dating grad students. Or if you have, they were accelerated.
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 now he did sth that turned me off. the guy who introduced us is a really good guy. and he told me that he completely trusts the guy and he's a very good friend. But my date after first chat after a couple of hours wanted to say sth behind his back but didn't say it. I was a little turned off. I mean the guy just set us up... what do you think?
veggirl Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I think you should relax. Meet the guy and see what happens. Go from there. One year is nothing, I am sorry but I laughed at your post. For what it's worth my bf is 2 yrs younger than I am. It is far from awful
brahmabull117 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 my best friend's girlfriend is 5 years older than him BTW and they're the happiest couple Ive ever seen 23 and 28
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 No i mean look at what he told me in the previous post . talking behind back.
veggirl Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 So he wanted to say something bad, talk s.hit about the guy who set you up? Please clarify. I suppose if you are already very turned off, just don't meet up with him and forget about him. No skin off your back!
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 So he wanted to say something bad, talk s.hit about the guy who set you up? Please clarify. I suppose if you are already very turned off, just don't meet up with him and forget about him. No skin off your back! Yes he wanted to say sth bad about him. But ended up not telling me. But I didn't think it was a good idea to even bringing up sth like that..
Radu Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 So my friend is setting me up with a friend and he's 1 year younger. Is it really bad? Mostly guys older than me even seem childish .. and he's even younger than me... What do I do? Would you guys consider this? I'm 21 he's 20. Wow ... so you were totally like born when he was being conceived ... what a total bummer. That one [1] sure is a cruel mistress. 1
Chunky Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 If you don't like him that's one thing but if you are worried about 1 year that's not a problem. My girlfriend is 4 years older than I am and I adore her. 1
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