cangel Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 (edited) He never says it anymore unless i ask him and then i dont know if he is just telling me what i want to hear. last week i got upset and asked him how he feels. he said he loves me. i told him im not feeling very loved at the min and he needs to say it, or show it, but its not made a difference. im scared of bringing it up again as i dont know if i want to hear the truth. am i over reacting? am i just craving attention? im not sure of anything anymore. any advice will be gratefully appreciated x Edited July 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Added more descriptive thread title
WhatYouWantToHear Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 (edited) Speaking on every man's behalf, nothing is <less> attractive than annoying neediness. What he <does not love> about you is your constant pestering and if he told you how much he loved you without your harping, he <would love you a lot more> My advice--<try something else>. Edited July 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed unproductive sarcasm
Author cangel Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 But if he NEVER say 'i love you' or 'you look nice' NEVER shows in any kind of loving affection, am i still wrong?
Forever Silent Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 He never says it anymore unless i ask him and then i dont know if he is just telling me what i want to hear. last week i got upset and asked him how he feels. he said he loves me. i told him im not feeling very loved at the min and he needs to say it, or show it, but its not made a difference. im scared of bringing it up again as i dont know if i want to hear the truth. am i over reacting? am i just craving attention? im not sure of anything anymore. any advice will be gratefully appreciated x Are you and your partner married or in a relationship?
Author cangel Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 No were not married but have lived together for 8 years
Forever Silent Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Hmmm, A lot of possiblities just ran through my head but my best suggestion would be to sit your patner down and tell him how you feel about him, and tell him how you would feel if he verbally or physically showed his love for you. For example: "Honey, I feel so warm and fuzzy inside when you say you love me." or "Honey, when you hug me, I get in the mood." I do not know be creative. But do not put pressure on him. Verbalize how you would feel if he did that. Do not argue with him about his lack of affection, but instead verbalize your feelings and how your feelings can be elevated even more if she shows more affection. If he likes to see you warm and fuzzy or in the mood, I am sure he will hug you and say I love you more often.
Author cangel Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 i have told him that i love a cuddle but that just means sex to him, he will give me a cuddle if i ask or if he feels the need, you know what i mean. i have said to him that i dont want to make out in public but to hold hands would be so nice but he either makes a joke of it or if we see some one we know, he just lets go straight away, he has never been mr romantic but i told him how unloved i am feeling and it has made no difference, i got really dressed up at the weekend when we went out, so many people said how nice i looked but the one person i wanted to hear it off, never said a thing.
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