miseriblewithouther Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 i was dumped a month ago after a 8 year relationship. she still cares about me, but all i have been thinking about lately is take my life in front of her. please help
NoneoftheAbove Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Calm down before you do anything. Just talk to us
flitzanu Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 you should contact a professional, or contact 911.
Zammo25 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 i was dumped a month ago after a 8 year relationship. she still cares about me, but all i have been thinking about lately is take my life in front of her. please help This is tough. I have been on a bad place but hope it is a temporary thing. At the end of the day you cannot make someone love you. People are free spirits and do what they want. Try and move on and one day you will find someone who will accept you for all you are.
Author miseriblewithouther Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 cant move on just at the end now
antelope82 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 please seek help. you're starting in the right place, but you should probably look at getting professional help too.
Author miseriblewithouther Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 dont have my mum anymore. only had my ex in my life and no i have no one close to me
William Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 (edited) Try Samaritans at : 08457 90 90 90 Or, Papyrus at: 0800 068 41 41 Mon-Fri 10am to 5pm, then 7pm to 10pm Weekends 2pm to 5pm Or call 999 and get emergency help. People are around you and they care. Some tips: It can help to try activities which distract you from your distress and focus on the world around you. It is best to try things you enjoy which can be different for different people. However, here is a list of things which can help. Try focussing on your breath for 10 minutes. This can relax you and take your mind off distressing thoughts.Take a hot bath.Eat your favourite food.Watch a movie or TV.Look through a magazine.Get some fresh air and exercise. Go for a walk in a green space If you are finding it difficult to stop yourself from feeling distressed, try writing down your thoughts, how you could be helped, what you would like to change.You may have a list of things which you can do to make yourself feel better in a crisis. If so go down your list and do each thing until you feel better. Regarding alcohol and drugs as 'medication': Although it is tempting to try to use them to try to numb painful feelings, they can make your emotions more volatile and affect your judgement. Using drugs or alcohol while you are in crisis will greatly increase your risk of hurting or killing yourself impulsively even though you may not have fully decided to do that.. Edited July 24, 2012 by William Added info.
headsashed Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 its not worth it,ive tried it and it only made things worse. You took the 1st step by coming here so somewhere inside doesnt want to die,now i would suggest calling samaritans or a proffessional.
maxy1 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 you're the most important thing to you, and someone else should not have such control over how you feel. you're definitely worth more than being a slave to someone else's feelings. you really should call a therapist to talk to, they can make you feel a million times better than you do right now.
penguin23 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 you're not alone by any means....all of us want to help and are here for you. and even though it can feel totally hopeless sometimes, it does get better. much better
Zammo25 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I have been where you are. I called the Samaritans 3 years ago , twice, when I felt my life had ended without an ex. Now I could not give a rats arse what she does or who she is screwing. I cannot now fathom how I got in such a place but the mind f*cks you up especially when you are vunerable. Keep strong and get through this.
amaysngrace Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 dont have my mum anymore. only had my ex in my life and no i have no one close to me I'm sorry to hear that. Please know that there are people who are thinking about you at this very moment and sending loving vibes your way. XO
Author miseriblewithouther Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 i have tried all those things aswell as working i have tried alcohol and pain killers it has made any differance what so ever
Author miseriblewithouther Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 they didnt help much, only prevented me doing it straight away
amaysngrace Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 You say she still cares about you right? Have you talked to her about your state of mind right now? I know I would feel terrible if someone hurt themselves over me. Are you trying to make her feel terrible?
Chi townD Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 If you're feeling that bad. Go to the emergency room. I will tell you this. NO GIRL IS WORTH ENDING YOUR LIFE OVER!!! Not one. Go see your doctor and get some anti-depressants. You need to get over this hump. You feel like this is the worst and you've hit rock bottom. Well, then there's only one direction you can go, and that's up. People will be here to teach you how to do that. But, for now, you need to seek professional help. After, you start meds and speak with a professional, we'll be here to help with the rest of the way. Killing yourself isn't the answer. What would it accomplish. You'll be gone and she'll continue to live her life. Don't give her the satisfaction. You need to fight for you right now.
Author miseriblewithouther Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 she still cares about me and is alway nice to me. have tried to make her feel terrible. i will talk to her again. i have planned it out in my mind to do it in front of her in her bathroom
amaysngrace Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 she still cares about me and is alway nice to me. have tried to make her feel terrible. i will talk to her again. i have planned it out in my mind to do it in front of her in her bathroom That's not going to solve anything really. All you'll be doing is transferring your pain onto her. You would never do that to somebody you truly love. Would you? 1
leoc1973 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I read a story about a guy that killed himself and the girl had intended on coming back to him. I will try to find the link.
Chi townD Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 she still cares about me and is alway nice to me. have tried to make her feel terrible. i will talk to her again. i have planned it out in my mind to do it in front of her in her bathroom Okay, and then what? Dude, get to the ER.
Author miseriblewithouther Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 what should i do then? i cant live without her p.s thanks for messaging me it really has helped for the moment
pteromom Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 What would it gain you to kill yourself in front of her? You are just trying to hurt her like she's hurt you, but you'll never do it. Sure, she may be horrified if you were to do something like that. She may cry a lot over you. She may have to seek counseling. But eventually, she'd move on. And she'd get married and have babies and have grandbabies, and once in a while, she might think about her ex who killed himself, but it would just be with regret for his loss of his own life. TRUST me on this - you will never have the power to hurt her like she's hurt you. You need to go to the ER and tell them you are suicidal. They will put you on meds that will numb your pain while you recover. They will get you some help. Just get up and go do it. What do you have to lose by trying? If it doesn't help and you are still suicidal later, that option is still available, right? So just get up NOW. And take yourself to the ER. Or call a friend to take you.
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