funnyface Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Okay... So the story goes, I was visiting my brother up at college this weekend since he is taking a summer class. Me and my friend were walking past a cafe and a group of guys were sitting near the window. One of the guys, LITERALLY stops and stares at me a full 180 degrees as I walked by. It was very cute and so was he. I looked back and smiled. A few minutes later we decide to go into this place for lunch. Again, I walk by a few times and he looks and we make eye contact, but he doesn't say anything to me. Finally, we go up to their table and start asking for directions and good places to hang out, and me and the guy start talking. He is very nice and seems interested, and asks for my email. A few hours later, he writes to me with a full list places and restaurants that are good around here. I write back and thank him, and then a few hours later, he writes back and says if I ever come back and visit we should hang out. He asks where I'm staying right now and mentions where he lives (making it sound like if I am in close proximity to him, we could possibly get together before I leave). He also asks for my facebook. Anyway, the thing that boggles me is that all of that happened in a matter of a few hours, and now its been 2 days and I haven't heard a thing from him. Okay okay... yes my title is a little misleading because he DID contact me, but now, NOTHING. Am I just being incredibly impatient and losing track of actual, reasonable time because I am so interested? Did he lose interest? Was he just looking for a one night stand? I keep telling myself that he is busy since he is a phD student, or maybe shy, but I hate making those types of excuses in my head since they never wind up being true.
jeffmeyers Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Are you really that pretty? This got me curious... Seriously, he probably just lost it or makes a mistake reading what you wrote to him. That or this is his schtick and gets 20 different adresses/numbers everyday that way.
haribogumsnickers Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Two things you can do at this point. First, you can play the waiting game and occupy your time with everything and anything to keep your mind off of him because it seems like your interest outweighs his. If he emails you back, then sweet but if not, then his loss not yours and you'll find someone else who's more interested in you. Second, you can just say screw it, I'll email him and see what's up. Keep it short and simple. If no reply after that, then next him. So what if he asked for your email first. I recommend my first suggestion. Two days is a long time and being a phD student doesn't excuse him to keep you waiting since he emailed you quickly after the first meeting. For the meantime, don't think of the possibilities of why he hasn't emailed yet because that's torture-some. I'm sort of in the same predicament myself so I know. Enjoy yourself and don't keep yourself waiting. You're worth it. You already know what to do so don't doubt yourself. Yeah, he's cute but is he that cute to wait for?
NoMagicBullet Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 A PhD student, huh? A friend of mine went through a PhD program, and occasionally had to deal with stuff like an advisor telling her to rework ALL of her data for a paper due in a ridiculously short amount of time. Who knows -- all kinds of things can come up that might keep someone out of contact for two days. Two days is not that long, and he surely has other obligations to attend to. I say give it a few more days, then e-mail him and casually ask how he's doing. If he can't e-mail you back in less than a week (without an apology and a really good excuse anyway), write him off.
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