FitChick Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 The children option on some websites can be a bit unclear. Sometimes people say yes to more children when they mean they wouldn't mind if their partner had kids from a previous marriage. It can't hurt to clarify what she means exactly, without telling her what you want in case she would lie and pretend that is what she wanted.
amaysngrace Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I'm almost 40 and I want grand kids. My kids are all in high school or college though so I'm willing to wait. But I really want a baby!
oaks Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 More kids means more people to look after me when I'm old. That's what they're for, right?
Radu Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Ohhh, you will make a lovely MIL. I can picture it now : - Hi honey, how are you guys doing ? - Fine mom, how are you ? - Good good, no grandkids or anything, right ? - Mom ... pls ... - You know, the penis has to go into the vagina, and it has to spurt out some milky stuff. Yeah, depending on if you have boys or girls, this might get even weirder. More kids means more people to look after me when I'm old. That's what they're for, right? Also more ppl that can put you in a home, and ignore you. 1
Author irc333 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 I noticed most women without kids, who hasn't had them as of yet....even a little above for....are probably trying to rush it. Adoption and other options...meh, that costs money. LOL
todreaminblue Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) I saw a "new user" appear in my area.....age 38...and believe it or not, says she's a single parent. And has "Yes" for wanting MORE children. Personally, I thought when women got married, had kids, got divorced....and esp. reached a certain age, the desire for children would go away. I figured women of any age that had never had kids, the craving were VERY high. But for a woman who already had kids (and almost 40), the desire would drop significantly? Sometimes I feel like asking them, "Your almost 40, you have kids....why do you want more of them?" Of course, that might go over like a lead balloon. LOL I am over 40, and i am not capable of having any more children maybe she is putting it out there for a male who might want his own kids and wants to offer that life.....I would feel guilty if i got to know someone and knew a guy wanted that opportunity. some women want to provide that opportunity to begin a family together.... my exes current partner is older than me and older than my ex and she started talking about converting a room into a nursery in front of our oldest daughter..... i thought that was in bad form....a bit of a green around the gills syndrome.......he just told her he was past baby rearing and changed the topic.... there are a lot of reasons why women would like to continue to have babies one of them is to cement a relationship and form a family .... as in the example of green gills i gave above...who knows.... that's the mystique of femininity and biological clocks working overtime....only the female in question knows the reason....deb Edited July 25, 2012 by todreaminblue
Author irc333 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Yeah, I think women approaching 40 are in a BIG hurry. This one I was referring to in particular had IN he profile, "If you do NOT want children, do not email me!" Then later took that sentence out. I've seen her on POF through the years, she's actually moved 3 times so far in the same area, relocating. Her profile had even become a bit bitter in saying things like "WHy can't I meet a decent guy that isn't a liar or cheater?" Recently, her profile had gotten a bit more demanding...that being said, would you want to have kids with a demanding woman who is watching her watch/calendar? lol I am over 40, and i am not capable of having any more children maybe she is putting it out there for a male who might want his own kids and wants to offer that life.....I would feel guilty if i got to know someone and knew a guy wanted that opportunity. some women want to provide that opportunity to begin a family together.... my exes current partner is older than me and older than my ex and she started talking about converting a room into a nursery in front of our oldest daughter..... i thought that was in bad form....a bit of a green around the gills syndrome.......he just told her he was past baby rearing and changed the topic.... there are a lot of reasons why women would like to continue to have babies one of them is to cement a relationship and form a family .... as in the example of green gills i gave above...who knows.... that's the mystique of femininity and biological clocks working overtime....only the female in question knows the reason....deb
BetheButterfly Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I saw a "new user" appear in my area.....age 38...and believe it or not, says she's a single parent. And has "Yes" for wanting MORE children. Personally, I thought when women got married, had kids, got divorced....and esp. reached a certain age, the desire for children would go away. I figured women of any age that had never had kids, the craving were VERY high. But for a woman who already had kids (and almost 40), the desire would drop significantly? Sometimes I feel like asking them, "Your almost 40, you have kids....why do you want more of them?" Of course, that might go over like a lead balloon. LOL I just turned 35. I hope that my husband and I have kids this year or next year. I don't even know for sure if I can have kids though. If not, and even if so, my husband and I are thinking of adopting. There are many kids who are orphans and need love and good families. 2
BetheButterfly Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 But I wish more people, in general, asked themselves why they want kids, nd really thought about it. Giving birth after 40 isn't ideal with regards to health and energy levels. Sadly, giving birth when you're younger might mean you're not psychologically ready enough! After analysing it quite thoroughly, I really don't get why people have to have their own kids. So many need adopting - or at least, some kind of mentoring - as it is. To me it's mostly a complex exercise in ego. I don't mean to offend by that comment. I am still very much interested in why people feel the need to do it. I don't rate the 'it's natural' argument, either. A biological urge is just that: an urge. Most people deal with their other bodily desires much better than this one. (Ooh look at me on my high horse! ) That's an excellent question. I think I want kids because of the following reasons: 1. My husband wants kids with me. 2. It seems like "creating" a tiny human life together is a bonding experience for many couples (for others no, sadly). 3. I would love to see how our children look. Maybe that's really a silly reason, but I have to admit it is one. My husband is drop-dead gorgeous! We are an interracial couple (that's us in my avatar) and yes I would love to have a child with his skin color and beautiful curly hair and my eyes. 4. In my belief, children are considered a great blessing. 5. My parents, who already have 7 grandchildren, would like to have grandchildren from me and my youngest sister too (we are the 2 out of 4 daughters who have not had kids yet.) It's a family thing... to have kids. One sister has 5 (she's a RN who works in a maternity ward in NY) and another has 2. 6. If I don't have kids biologically, I would love to adopt because there are many children who are orphans who need love and a good family and a home. I am interested in adopting a child or siblings because I want to help them. 7. I have a strong maternal instinct and love to teach. I guess I am a tad bossy (as the eldest sister, I was always taking care of my younger sisters and helping out with kids) but I also enjoy seeing them play and grow up, talking and reading and being funny and creative!!! Kids are so awesome!!! 1
todreaminblue Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Yeah, I think women approaching 40 are in a BIG hurry. This one I was referring to in particular had IN he profile, "If you do NOT want children, do not email me!" Then later took that sentence out. I've seen her on POF through the years, she's actually moved 3 times so far in the same area, relocating. Her profile had even become a bit bitter in saying things like "WHy can't I meet a decent guy that isn't a liar or cheater?" Recently, her profile had gotten a bit more demanding...that being said, would you want to have kids with a demanding woman who is watching her watch/calendar? lol "WHy can't I meet a decent guy that isn't a liar or cheater?" That particular sentence makes her shark bait and online is perfect for sharks she wont see them coming...she has told them exactly what she wants to hear to hook her then take advantage of her faulty people picker.... she wants a decent guy to take pity on her and show her she can meet a nice guy.....decent guys wouldnt date for pity only sharks would......sharks snap up the strugglers..smooth as silk...sad but true.....she needs some positive dates and a different mind set...she wont find any happiness through pity..deb
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