tipsyleprachauns Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I saw her in person again the other day. Point blank ignoring my existence again. Want's to be friends. Doesn't. Want's to chat. Can't handle it. Opens up for conversation. Pretends I don't exist. Constantly changing. Does this make sense to ANYONE? Just feeling so fed up today. Why does an ex who's over it behave like that?
broken-and-lost Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Unfortunately this is normal my ex did this to me constantly until she established a good relationship with the new guy my advice which you won't take is go NC and try to move on before she does!! it only drags out the pain. Mine would totally ignore me then speak to me with a few breadcrumbs then ignore me for months then speak briefly 1.5 years on i haven't moved on because i have been stupid enough to not have enough self respect to say enough and move on god yesterday i found out she had moved the guy she dumped me for into our old flat and 4 weeks ago she was telling me she would meet me possibly for a coffee,, so for me today is my enough regardless of my fears and insecurities of the future, do you want that for yourself if not then maybe lean from my **** ups if not then well Choice is yours really? sorry i know it's painful
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Oh I'm trying to fall out of love with her - believe me. It just doesn't seem to be happening. Not in the slightest. I had a few months of no contact and then the occasional very limited contact that stems from being in the same church as her. Last I heard she was with new guy. Well, unofficially dating since February. I guess I don't get the psychology beind it. By her own words, in just over a month and a half after break up she no longer loved me and was moved on. Then why behave so up and down. I also heard from a friend that whilst she's dating new guy, she was seen out having a cozy drink with her ex from before me - whom she vertiably hated.
broken-and-lost Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 it's simple really m8, it's an ego boost due to insecurities and fear of the future it's that simple. I use to think the same stuff up until yesterday, looking for hidden meanings or a slight hope, well she e-mailed me so she must still care or part of her might want me back. All your doing is tricking yourself into believing their is more there then their really is i drag mine out for over a year and half and trust me the other part of me was saying i was trying to get over her and fall out of love but really i wasn't because i was just looking for hidden messages in her actions. People like to know they have a fall back even if they don't ever intend on using it when they are low it gives them a boost like a security blanket if you will. You have to decided do you want to be that ? it ****ing hurts if you do trust me on that one you never truly move on
Coffee20 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I am not sure but for me I don't want to be friends with my ex and also I don't want to talk to him and I would like to ignore him. I don't know how it will work. Maybe if he comes and starts talking to me I will talk to him back, although I know I shouldn't do it. And then I will ignore him again? What's the point in talking to your ex or wanting to be friends, I think she doesn't want to. Maybe you should completely ignore her.
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 I have no intention of being friends but given that the brief exchange makes me feel no different (neither better or worse) I figure I don't mind it occasionally. Me ignoring her is not the issue. That's easy when it's her ignoring me. I'm just puzzled as to why. I didn't say anything in any way inclined to me wanting her back. It was just brief friendly conversational exchange, as I would have with anyone I know and was texting.
broken-and-lost Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- That's easy when it's her ignoring me. I'm just puzzled as to why. I didn't say anything in any way inclined to me wanting her back. It was just brief friendly conversational exchange, as I would have with anyone I know and was texting. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- You might not think it effects you but read the top statement you just wrote it keeps you thinking about her and that does effect you. Can i ask you a question do you want to move on from this girl? i didn't hence fooled myself into thinking an e-mail once in a while was fine it wasn't not for me anyway was fine for her as she was moving on with the new guy. Just asking what your goal is here?
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Oh it does affect me. Just not in a negative or positive way. It neither makes me feel better about things or worse about things- just... puzzled. And that's honestly. It's just kind of.. neutral. I am also in the place, and I have been for a long time, where I would love to either get over her and be happy without her, or get her back. Either would suit in perfectly equal amounts.
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