supermanthatho Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 My friend called me up tellin me to come by because he wanted me to see a status my ex made. He only lives down the road so i walked on by. He still has her on fb and he showed me her status. She said this: " Wud have been 3 yrs yesterday! Appreciated every moment of it!! RIP to that beautiful time!! :(" The 3yrs was representing our would be 3 yrs annivery. Then a girl commented "are you ok babe?" My ex commented back "I think so :/ xxox" What do i make of this loveshack? If you read my other threads itll give a more understanding to my case. I havent had any contact with her since a wk or 2 after we broke up and that was a near couple months ago. Please help me?
PoppyLove89 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Are you 100% sure that it can't possibly be about anything else? If you are sure, I still wouldn't read too far into it. I say this because I too did a similar thing on the 18th of July. I tweeted '5 years ago today! #timeflies' about my first ever boyfriend, whom I dumped a year and a half ago, after 3 and a half years. I have since had my own heart broken in return by the guy after him (whom I was with for a year)...anyway, my point is this: I was just being sentimental and my guess is that your ex was just doing the same. Sometimes you just get caught up in memories and emotions. It doesn't mean much more than that. BUT if you're really still not sure...try speaking to her? (though you'd have to admit to fb stalking her) Has she dated anyone else since you split?
Ruby65 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 It doesn't matter what she writes on Facebook. All that matters is what she tells YOU -- both in words and actions. She's not contacting YOU, she's just putting a self-pitying status out there to get sympathy and support from her friends. She's probably feeling lonely and sorry for herself -- but that doesn't mean she wants to get back together with you. If she wanted to get back together, she'd be contacting you to make that happen. I'd thank your friend for thinking of you, but ask him NOT tell you about her status updates in the future. 1
Chi townD Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I agree. She's looking for sympathy and since you are no longer on Facebook with her and you won't take any of her breadcrumbs, she's looking for an ego boost from anyone. 1
Dblock10 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 ruby and chi bang on. its exactly that. don't look into it. forget her.
flitzanu Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 My friend called me up tellin me to come by because he wanted me to see a status my ex made. He only lives down the road so i walked on by. He still has her on fb and he showed me her status. She said this: " Wud have been 3 yrs yesterday! Appreciated every moment of it!! RIP to that beautiful time!! :(" The 3yrs was representing our would be 3 yrs annivery. Then a girl commented "are you ok babe?" My ex commented back "I think so :/ xxox" What do i make of this loveshack? If you read my other threads itll give a more understanding to my case. I havent had any contact with her since a wk or 2 after we broke up and that was a near couple months ago. Please help me? you should stop stalking her facebook page, and stop assuming that her world revolves around you. also tell your friends to quit creeping her page too. don't you think if she wanted to get your attention she would TELL you something instead of vaguely posting something on a social media site that you may've never even seen?
TaintedHeart Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Yes, maybe she was thinking of you, thinking about it being your 3 year anniversary together but I really wouldn't get your hopes up or feel all giddy about it. I still think about my ex's but it doesn't always mean I want them back. Us girls remember things like this. I actually think it was more of an attention seeking status if I'm honest.
g450 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Doesnt mean a damn thing. She wants to portray herself as the victim to her friends to get attention and pitty. Nothing more. It also means you need to find a friend that wont stalk your X on the internet. I mean really, how is that helping you? Get a better class of friends because if he is interering with your NC then he is interfering with your healing process. That's not what I call a friend. It's what I call a drama seeker. 2
Author supermanthatho Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Wow, yeah didnt think some people would hammer me like that but i respect that still. I think you are all right about she just wants some attention. I never asked does this mean she wants me back, i asked what does it mean in general. Im seeing someone else right now and been dating but the girl im seeing is great and she gets my mind off things too. and yes i kno for a fact my ex was talkin about our 3 yr would be anniversary
Chi townD Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 we're not hammering you. We're hammering her! We see the game that she's playing and just informing you. I wouldn't read too much into it. She's looking for a warm fuzzy from someone.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 don't you think if she wanted to get your attention she would TELL you something instead of vaguely posting something on a social media site that you may've never even seen? Do you really think she would? BTW, Who said he or his friends were creeping the girl's page again? I didn't see that part of the post.
flitzanu Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Do you really think she would? BTW, Who said he or his friends were creeping the girl's page again? I didn't see that part of the post. In his post. 'my frie d called and told me to come look at facebook he is still friends with her' As others pointed out, it's just vaguebooking. She wants attention for some vague comment she understands that no one else would. Doesn't mean she may or may not be reminiscing, but it certainly doesn't mean she is thinking of him in a romantic way. We often memorialize horrific events and call them National holidays
Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 In his post. 'my frie d called and told me to come look at facebook he is still friends with her' As others pointed out, it's just vaguebooking. She wants attention for some vague comment she understands that no one else would. Doesn't mean she may or may not be reminiscing, but it certainly doesn't mean she is thinking of him in a romantic way. We often memorialize horrific events and call them National holidays He said his friend saw a status update from her. That doesn't mean stalking. That means a status pooped up on HIS page...do you use facebook at all?
Trimmer Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 He said his friend saw a status update from her. And then the OP walked to the friend's house so he could see it - and probably the rest of her page - with his own eyes. That doesn't mean stalking. Actually, I've heard the term 'Facebook-stalking' used more loosely than "real" stalking, to mean hanging out, looking at friends-of-friends' pages or other areas you wouldn't normally be. In that sense, the term was not that far off. But either way, it's splitting hairs about terminology to no useful effect. The point being made is still valid: the OP shouldn't waste energy and invest emotional anguish looking at his ex's Facebook page, status, or activities at all. Call it "looking", Facebook-stalking or whatever, the point is valid. That means a status pooped up on HIS page...do you use facebook at all? Obviously the commenter does, because he eloquently pointed out the irritating phenomenon of "vague-booking" (an apt term.) 3
Ruby65 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 He said his friend saw a status update from her. That doesn't mean stalking. That means a status pooped up on HIS page...do you use facebook at all? heh heh..... you said "pooped" !
Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 heh heh..... you said "pooped" ! Yep, and I can't even edit it
Trimmer Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 heh heh..... you said "pooped" ! Maybe he was logged in to "Fecesbook" at the time... 2
flitzanu Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 He said his friend saw a status update from her. That doesn't mean stalking. That means a status pooped up on HIS page...do you use facebook at all? heheh yeah, i do have a couple friends on fb. you can add me if you like. but yes, it means it popped up on his friends screen, but why is the friend even paying attention to what the OP's ex is posting? seriously, i know you're not dense and i'm being honest and not insulting, but you know better than to think there's not creeping involved. my friends had the loyalty to delete my ex when we broke up and to not read her page and keep up with crap she was saying. guys aren't going to hang out or chat with they male friends' exes, that's just against most articles of the bro-code. so yeah, i definitely believe there was some intentional creeping being done. 1
Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 heheh yeah, i do have a couple friends on fb. you can add me if you like. but yes, it means it popped up on his friends screen, but why is the friend even paying attention to what the OP's ex is posting? seriously, i know you're not dense and i'm being honest and not insulting, but you know better than to think there's not creeping involved. my friends had the loyalty to delete my ex when we broke up and to not read her page and keep up with crap she was saying. guys aren't going to hang out or chat with they male friends' exes, that's just against most articles of the bro-code. so yeah, i definitely believe there was some intentional creeping being done. I guess. I mean, my friends are still friends with my ex...
flitzanu Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I guess. I mean, my friends are still friends with my ex... do your friends support her decisions in dumping you? were they YOUR friends first, or hers?
k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I agree i wouldnt read too much into it, some people seek attention on facebook and do do the whole vague status for attention. She probably was thinking about you, it's a long time three years and she probably does have fond memories. I don't think your friend did you much of a favour though, I mean some of my friends are friens with my ex on facebook, friends we had mutually before we met but NONE of them have ever said anything to me about what my ex posts on facebook and i have never asked. I have gone to the point of when meeting mutual friends actually saying Look no talk of the ex please. Some of them were a bit nosey when we split just asking why and we seems happy ect but they wouldnt do anything else it's not right. Same as people who tell their friends when an ex gets a new boyfriend ect, this just makes you friend feel pain and why put them through that? people say it's because they are true friends but tru friends know you don't tell someone something if it will hurt them and it can't be changed. telling your friend you know they cheated on you ect is different.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 do your friends support her decisions in dumping you? were they YOUR friends first, or hers? No they think she's making a mistake...but hell, if there's nothing I can do to convince her, there's nothing they can do about it. And I knew them first...but I don't really see how that's relevant to anything??
flitzanu Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 No they think she's making a mistake...but hell, if there's nothing I can do to convince her, there's nothing they can do about it. And I knew them first...but I don't really see how that's relevant to anything?? I seriously think today is "miss the point" day with every conversation i've had. if a girl broke your friend's heart, would you want to associate with that girl, and why?
Gulf-Delta Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 I seriously think today is "miss the point" day with every conversation i've had. if a girl broke your friend's heart, would you want to associate with that girl, and why? Are you serious? You expect me to make my friends pick sides or something? What is this, middle school? We're adults, my relationship has nothing to do with my friends. I would still associate with that girl because the end of their relationship is THEIR business and has nothing to do with me.
flitzanu Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Are you serious? You expect me to make my friends pick sides or something? What is this, middle school? We're adults, my relationship has nothing to do with my friends. I would still associate with that girl because the end of their relationship is THEIR business and has nothing to do with me. i didn't suggest you pick sides. i just know that by the perception of MY friends, that my male friends might find it a little unnerving that i would be hanging out with their ex girlfriends. might make my intentions seem a little questionable. but, obviously we have a difference of opinion there, and certainly not the first time. which was my original point, in why the hell the OP's friend is associating with the OP's ex girlfriend.
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