gudrunm10 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Hey there guys, this is my first post on here but I really felt the need to vent and possibly get some advice from you too... TL;DR scroll down. Here's the thing. I met a guy few months ago, he was working at a grocery store not far from where I lived. We actually met through Facebook but have some mutual friends. Anyway, we never officially met each other after talking on and off for over half a year except when I had to go to the grocery store but we planned on doing so around 3 weeks ago because we had been talking a lot and had both found out we really liked each other. He had said things like "I want you and no one but you" or "I really like you and want to be with you" and soooo on.. and we had talked on the phone a few times and he would tell me he wished he'd be there with me (some of it were too much for me even but I liked him so I went with it). I went camping and talked to him a lot during the evenings, he tries to come see me (didn't work out). When I come back home we still talk. Then.... suddenly.. he slowly ignores my messages and texts. He tells me he needs to find courage to see me face to face. I tell him that it's no problem, I'm in no rush and we'll just meet up whenever the time is right. Then we keep talking but way less than usually. Suddenly he stops answering me. I text him something neutral, no answer. I wait a few days. No more texts or messages, no contacting at all. I get angry but I still try to send him a calm text asking for some clearance by saying: "Well, if you're suddenly not interested anymore you could at least let me know so I'm not getting my hopes up, I don't know where I've got you anymore.. but I'm losing interest in trying to get you to meet up with me although SO FAR I've really wanted to" No answer, it's been a week now. I'm almost afraid I sounded needy but I tried real hard not to. I would change the part where I'd say "I'm not asking you to meet me right now but at least talk to me, kay?" but I thought sending another text would be a stupid idea.. So now that he's all I've got on my mind and I started to be that person I really hate, stalking him and hoping he pops up and says hi, I notice that I posted a music video on facebook which he "liked" ... and since I obviously started reading into it, I'll ask you guys, do you think that's a sign or merely a coincidence? Maybe he just liked that song. Done. Or should I pop up and say hi? Should I chase him? He's really shy, so maybe he's afraid to start talking to me after ignoring me for some reasons I don't know.. (my friend said that, I just can't believe it). Could he be weighing his options with another girl? Yeah that's possible.. but he hasn't deleted me and I don't think that's the right thing to do (for me that is, it's so childish) I'm so unsure.. so many reasons could explain all this... what do you guys think?? TL;DR What do I do if a guy tells me he likes me and wants me but then starts ignoring me big time for no apparent reason??????? I don't know what's going ooon with him.. ;__; EDIT: P.S. I'm 20 years old and he's 21.. we're not just naive little children.. or maybe we are.. I don't know
whichwayisup Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Sometimes guys do the ignore thing as they don't have the nerve to end it so they do assholish things to piss you off, enough that you give up and leave them alone. He has been on FB and he's received your texts. Stop contacting him. I know it hurts and he really isn't nice to do this to you but unfortunately it seems like this is how he's chosen to end things with you. 1
Author gudrunm10 Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Yeah you're probably right.. it feels like something I'd do if I wanted to end things with someone I didn't wanna hurt (even though it does anyway).. but I can't help but think of this silly "like" on Facebook.. I know it doesn't mean anything but if I wanted to end things for good I'd completely ignore them and even delete on Facebook because I'd feel ashamed to end it that way.. I guess I'll just have to keep ignoring him and move on with doing whatever before we were talking ...it just feels crabby.
Forever Silent Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 What do I do if a guy tells me he likes me and wants me but then starts ignoring me big time for no apparent reason??????? I don't know what's going ooon with him.. ;__; This is easy, drop him and keep it movin.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Guys never play hard to get because its not in their nature to want girls to chase them; they'd rather do the chading themselves. He did the fade on you and unfortunately you're going to have to move on. I understand the connection you felt but you neve even met him.
Author gudrunm10 Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Guys never play hard to get because its not in their nature to want girls to chase them; they'd rather do the chading themselves. He did the fade on you and unfortunately you're going to have to move on. I understand the connection you felt but you neve even met him. Yeah you're right, it's just silly if guys play hard to get.. at least I never keep talking to someone that stops showing me interest.. I DID stop talking to him immediately after trying to contact him before I hit the desperate limit.. what I don't understand is why a guy would say things like "I want you and no one else" or "I want to be with you" and then suddenly disappear like that.
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